I Gave My Man CHLAMYDIA and He Left. Will I Ever Have A Chance At New Love?

Video: I need your thoughts. I was in a relationship with a guy that was a dear friend and to be honest he was imperfectly perfect for me, at least that is what I thought. He and I had only been in a relationship for a month but we were friends for 8 months. Before we decided to be with each other I was involved with this other guy and he and I did something together that I regret but it led to him giving me an STD that was treatable. I am normally very careful but for the first time I got intoxicated and did something crazy like had sex without protection. I ended up getting Chlamydia and giving it to my new boyfriend and he left me. I got it before he and I were in a relatioship together and as soon as I was tested for everything and got my results I informed him of the outcome and he left me and won’t speak to me. I told him a thousand times how sorry I am and that it was not intentional because the guy that gave it to me, he and I were exclusive for months just not willing to be in a relationship with one another. I know i did what was right by telling my boyfriend but I really feel like I have lost the guy that was made for me and I really don’t know where to go from here because I don’t want to miss out on a chance at real love.  Please help.

8 replies
  1. Brim31806
    Brim31806 says:

    He should have left her alone and not talk to her. She might want to be glad that he didnt hurt her but he is doing the right thing by not talking to her hopefully for good. If she was in his shoes she would leave him alone to.

  2. Elle
    Elle says:

    him leaving meant that he wasn't for you. The one that is for you wont leave, wont stop loving you, wont stop giving to you, and will never stop being there for you. you won't miss out on your chance. when love is there love will let you know. the other are opportunity for growth, understanding and ways for you to look 4 and know your strengths.

  3. ILove2Scrub
    ILove2Scrub says:

    She needs to slow her roll. running from man to man. and not? using protection. and using the "I got drunk" excuse?" why was she out getting drunk in the first place? and then sleeping around? without a condom? if you have to be a drunkard then do it at home alone so there is no one to crawl up between your lose legs. yes she can have a relationship but hope she learns from this and grow to hecl up and be responsible for her cooch.

  4. Anon
    Anon says:

    At least chlamydia is curable and you won't have it for the rest of your life. You will meet someone else and you will be fine.

  5. whylie2010
    whylie2010 says:

    One more thing, your friend was also lax in judgment as he didn't suggest that you both get tested for STDs (again, those you can get tested for such as chlamydia) before you initiated a sexual relationship. BOTH parties are responsible for practicing safe sex and we should all have learned by now to be advocates for our own health.

  6. whylie2010
    whylie2010 says:

    Unfortunately, a lot of people (dare I say MOST people) are uneducated when it comes to STDs and don't understand that you can have one from a previous relationship and not know it (as was your case). Consequently, a partner might assume you contracted the infection while you were also sleeping with them. It can cause trust issues understandably. But, your "friend" could also be like most people who stigmatize anyone with an STD. As you've learned, no matter how safe you are, if you're sexually active, STDs are par for the course. Most people will get one in their lifetime, whether they realize they have one or not (for example, men can't be tested for HPV for example, so if they're sexually active, they likely have it and are spreading it). Don't be hard on yourself. We all make mistakes. I'm sure your friend isn't perfect either, but we all deal with difficult situations differently. Move on and make sure to protect yourself from this point on (no drinking!).

  7. The Author
    The Author says:

    I am sorry to hear this. Though you tried to be honest and though you didn’t mean to do it, giving someone an STD is serious. That is a hard pill to swallow. Maybe when he cools down things will be ok but it’s very possible that you permeantly lost one. For future reference be careful in this dating scene. If husbands are bringing home HIV to wives, than you know not to trust some dude you are just dating. Protect yourself and pray about.

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