Viewer Letter: I’ve never written to anyone for advise but I am looking for an unbiased answer to a complicated situation. I’ve been married 3 years and these 3 years have been the worst time of my life. When I tell you what is going on and all that has happened you are going to look at this letter and shake your head. Let me break it down from start to finish two months before getting married my mother was diagnosed with cancer so we moved my parents up to where we live to make sure she was receiving proper treatment. With that my father had dementia so I was taking care of that issue as well of course stress on a newly married couple. So this went on for 7 months until all was well. A month after my parents left I was fired from my 6-figure job through the grace of God I found another one still stressful. Three months later a storm came through and blew the roof off of our condo in which our place was completely destroyed so we were displaced for 9 months more stress. Two months after the storm my father passed away. Three months after that I found out my husband was having inappropriate conversation with several women which I forgave him. In May of this year I found out that my husband had a fling (he said he only received oral sex – yeah right) with a co-worker twice at his job that I got him through my best friend who is his boss like a fool I stayed again yes we went to counseling which did not help that much. Last week we found out that it’s a possibility that neither one of us can conceive a child naturally which points the arrow at his 11 year old son he has by another woman that he may not be the father to this child because his infertility looks to be genetic. So after 3 years of this I’m deflated, self-esteem is shot (mind you I never had issues with self-esteem ever), I honestly don’t know what to do or where to go it’s like there is a black cloud over this relationship. I’m checking his phone, I’m tracking his every move I’m so unsure of where this is even going. Don’t get me wrong I love my husband but these first three years have already beat me to a pulp the stress is overwhelming and is affecting us seriously. I real need help or Prozac. *Sorry for any typos or incorrect use of the English language*.
Lost in the Abyss of Marriage