By Lana Moline
I asked my husband out on a lunch date with the intent of interviewing him to find out something that I perhaps did not know. After many years of marriage, I will admit that my creativity has matured but in all of my years writing, this was my first time thinking of this. It was so cute because he was excited and a little nervous. I think he was sold when I told him that we were eating at one of our favorite restaurants and I was treating.
The nice thing for me is that it brought me back to when we dated. When I got dressed, I looked past all the comfortable clothes that I wear often and came out with something fierce because I wanted to make sure he did a double take – and he did. From the moment we were seated, he stared uncontrollably to the point that I blushed through my interview. So here’s the thing. I asked him a series of questions just to get a feel for what he was thinking but truth be told, my plan was to hear his answer to only one question which is “why do you love me?”
We spoke about his goals which were consistent with what I already know of him. He shared his vision for our family and that warmed my heart and he even dropped some knowledge about the key to relationships. He said that “relationships thrive when there is a shared interest, a joy for spending time together, mutual respect and a spirit of cooperativeness.” That moment reminded me that he is a cool dude who is just fun to hang out with and that’s when I asked my question. It went something like this:
Me: Why do you love me?
Him: Because you are brilliant, attractive, smart and kind
Me: Why do you love me?
Him: (Without hesitation) Because you are beautiful, considerate and ambitious
Me: Why do you love me? (I asked 3 times in a row)
Him: (On cue) Because you are a good cook, you love music and have a desire to grow.
The more I asked, the more answers he had for me. Although I had set out to find out something that I didn’t know, my entire date reminded me of what I was sure of – He loves me.
Ask your someone special to share why they feel the way that they do about you. I promise you, it will make the world of difference in your life and in your relationship. Let me know how it works out for you.
Lana Moline is an integral part of the Blackloveandmarriage.com writing team, freelance writer and poet who lives in Ft. Worth with her three kids and husband Emile. Married 11 years, both media professionals have vowed to maintain integrity in all aspects of print and broadcast journalism.Visit her atLana Moline Speaks.