VIDEO: What does it mean to be a virgin in 2011? A newlywed husband wrote into us expressing concern and hurt because he thought his wife was a virgin. Why? She told him she was prior to their getting married. However, he recently found out she’s had anal sex. Needless to say this was a shocker to him. He says you weren’t a virgin when we got married then! His wife says Yes, I was! He feels as though the integrity of their relationship foundation has been compromised. So, what do you do when what you thought was….just isn’t? You do the 2 “F” words. FORGIVE & move FORWARD. Listen in and let us know how devastating you think news like this can be for a relationship.