The More Things Change… The More Things Stay The Same

By Ayize Ma’at

When you look at your relationship today…what do you see?  If you take a birds eye view of the history of your relationship what do you see?  I ask these two questions because on a regular basis we’re confronted with questions from folks who are in a state of despair in their relationship and appear clueless about the conditions that created their current circumstances.  We are also exposed to couples who have phenomenal relationships and appear cognizant of the seeds that were planted some umpteen years ago which enable them to have a fruitful love.

It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day details and identify the current circumstances of your relationship as being responsible for the current condition of your love.  The fallacy in this line of thought is that you ignore the history and turn a blind eye to your “steady”.  Your “steady” is your foundation.  Regardless of what you’re currently experiencing in your relationship the way you deal with what you’re experiencing is directly related to your “steady”…your foundation.  Was the foundation of your relationship built with integrity, compassion, commitment, and genuine love.

In this video I talk about our foundation….and use a Valentine’s Day card I gave Aiyana in 1998 to illustrate the point that the connection we have in our relationship AIN’T NOTHIN NEW.  It’s our steady….it’s our foundation. It’s been here since the beginning.  It’s because of that foundation we’ve been able to build our lasting love.