We Are Complete Opposites On Everything And WE NEED HELP!!!

Viewer Question: My question is how do I improve my marriage.  Me and my husband are totally different.  He is “‘hood””I am suurb.  He is heardheaded and so am I.  He is a neat freak, I am messy marvin.  We butt heads a lot.  I want to  get to the point where we can be on cruise control.  Is that possible when we are so different?

BLAM Fam what do you think?

5 replies
  1. Elle
    Elle says:

    it is possible. me and my man were so different. work on what you want going on in your relationship. that is what we did and had to do. he worked on what he wanted going on despite our differences and i worked on what i wanted going on. we where committed to crusing in our relationship. now we are committed to romance in our relationship. we worked on cruising seperately but we are working on romance together. good luck. let what you want be your focus day and night. it is okay if you are the partner working on it while he is the partner waiting for you to get it done. after you get that you'll go for even better things in your marriage.
    My recent post HOW DOES IT FEEL TO BE IN LOVE?

  2. Pat K.
    Pat K. says:

    There's no way any of us who are married are going to get out of this thing without some serious personal growth happening. Many of our counterparts who have divorced have aborted the proces (in cases where the partner divorced them, some have had this visited upon them through no fault of their own).

    If you're married and doing it even halfway right, you will grow up and be able to maintain joy while enduring a trial. You will be able to do this while taking kids to school, cleaning the house and being your husband's girlfriend. If you're good at it, you'll be able to do it with your eyes closed and one hand tied behind your back (I'm sort of serious about this!). Your ability to discern who is "for you" and who is against the marriage will grow to the point where people will think you're clairvoyant.

    Marriage is a great sacrifice. The fun part is that if you play nice, you get all the goodies that happily marrieds enjoy: great sex, a person who knows you well to love and care for you, and stability in a time of chaos for our people in the area of family, love and relationships. You're blessed; now stop complaining.

    • Ayize
      Ayize says:

      straight with no chaser lol : ) we love it.

  3. Era Dessa
    Era Dessa says:

    i loved this!

  4. natural4lyfe
    natural4lyfe says:

    Me and mine have lots of differences also…like we don't have anything in common. TV, movies, activities. It's almost like we didn't really date before we married but we did.

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