Are You Playing Hide and Seek In Your Relationship?

VIDEO: If relationships and people were all the same “color”, “tone”, and “speed” then they’d be quite uneventful and boring. Fortunately relationships are comprised of two unique individuals that have different ways of living, being and communicating. Sometimes these differences create relationship challenges where patterns of behavior unintentionally develop. The pattern that we frequently see among couples is one of HIDE -N- SEEK. Generally speaking as it pertains to relationship issues….one person is chasing to talk through and process an issue while the other person is running away to avoid and escape an issue. This pattern of behavior eventually becomes a vicious cycle where both parties are entrenched in their roles. We become so attached to our roles that somehow without realizing it we become more more committed to playing out our parts (pursuer or withdrawer) than really looking at whether or not this behavior is working for or against us. This is unfortunate because more often than not this Hide-N-Seek routine does not lead to resolution of the issues…but rather frustration, anger, and resentment. So, what do you do??? The pursuers reading this are thinking “We have to talk!” and the withdrawers  reading are thinking “He or She has to get off my back!” Well, rest easy. We have the solution. Listen in and learn how to break this crazy and vicious cycle.