VIDEO: Marriage & Strip Clubs. Do they mix? Many couples feel that including this into their marriage has enhanced their relationship. They speak of the experience (going alone or together) as having allowed them to explore and share sexual fantasies with each other, be vulnerable with each other in ways that they otherwise might not, and increase the physical and emotional intimacy between them. In the same token many couples feel that strip clubs take away from their relationship, increase the likelihood of lying and deceit in the relationship, encourage behavior that is not focused on building the love that they share with each other, and are generally just a bad idea. Well, opinions are like belly buttons…everybody has one. So, what we’d like to remind everyone is that it’s easy to focus on an activity and give it power that it DOES NOT have. For example, saying strip clubs make sex exciting or strip clubs encourage lying really isn’t the truth (…how many of us have done the same exact activity with two different people and had two totally different experiences? One’s a thrill! The other a bore. One is oh so honest. The other has a very hard time keeping it real.)—-no, it comes down to how the two people in the relationship are connected and how they communicate and genuinely look to each other to be transparent about their feelings and expectations. You and your spouse are the two people who give a definition of desire or disease to strip clubs. It’s you and your spouse who ultimately have the power to be vulnerable and “see through” in your communication. It comes down to the meaning that you and your spouse assign to strip clubs. It comes down to how you choose to utilize or not utilize strip clubs in your relationship…it comes down to the foundation the two of you have. Is your bond built on trust & confidence or on mistrust and doubt?
Here, we answer a viewer who says her husband goes to strip clubs and she has no problem with it. However, she recently wanted to go out to a strip club with some girlfriends…and he wasn’t feeling it. Double standard? Maybe. Maybe not. How should this be handled? Listen in to hear our opinion. As always feel free to leave a comment or submit a video response. We always love to hear what you think.