VIDEO: Dead Prez’s Song “The Beauty Within” Is Amazing!

We are loving this positive and uplifting video by Dead Prez that celebrates black women in their natural beauty. There are a few lines where “perms and weaves” are pitted against being “natural”.  I (Aiyana) personally feel this is a bit divisive and could prove to distract from the beautiful message for some.

But, all in all, this video and it’s message are dope, hot—all that and then some. Much respect to Dead Prez for yet another wise and worthy hit!

We MUST Put An End To Shadeism: Discrimination That Exists Between The Lighter-Skinned And Darker-Skinned Members Of The Same Community

By Aiyana Ma’at

VIDEO: I was struck with familiar feelings as I watched this short but powerful documentary.  5 women within the African, Carribean, and South Asian diasporas spoke candidly about skin color and the toll that discrimination from within their own race has taken on them and their communities. Woooow. I could have easily been listening to 5 women of color from NY, Georgia, Mississippi, Ohio, and Boston. My crystal clear revelation–our stories are all the same. This short film is needed more than we even realize. Watch and share with your daughters (blood and otherwise) and their daughters. If we ever stand to stop the devastating effects of Shadeism we have to begin with education. It is a huge key to our liberation.

This documentary short is an introduction to the issue of shadeism, the discrimination that exists between the lighter-skinned and darker-skinned members of the same community. This documentary short looks specifically at how it affects young womyn within the African, Caribbean, and South Asian diasporas. Through the eyes and words of 5 young women and 1 little girl – all females of colour – the film takes us into the thoughts and experiences of each. Overall, ‘Shadeism’ explores where shadeism comes from, how it directly affects us as womyn of colour, and ultimately, begins to explore how we can move forward through dialogue and discussion.

TRAILER: Idris Elba Executive Produces “Milk And Honey” WebSeries That Many Hope Will Go To TV

Have you heard about the webseries Milk & Honey? Well, if you haven’t, here’s a look at the trailer of the new web series executive produced by Idris Elba, titled Milk & Honey, created by Brown Paper Dolls (Dana Gills, Asha Kamali May, and Jeanette McDuffie – all Chicago natives (Spelman, Howard U & FAMU grads) who started their production company in LA.

The series, which is headlined by Lance Gross, Debbie Allen, Faune Chambers, Bryce Wilson, and Asha Kamali, centers on 4 black women living in Los Angeles, who are on “spiritual, professional and romantic journeys to make their dreams reality.”

Brown Paper Dolls have been working on the project for “over 3 years,” and say that it will be available on all platforms, not just the web (TV, mobile and more). They describe it as “a mix between HBO’s Entourage and Sex and the City.”

Check it out and spread the word if you like it. They need at least 1 million views to have a real shot at getting it picked up for TV. You can also follow the series on Twitter @milkandhoneyseries and on Facebook HERE.

Check out the trailer below:

SMH…Light Skinned Vs. Dark Skinned Dodgeball Game Hosted By Kid N Play

By Ayize Ma’at

About a week ago my 5 year old baby girl said to her Mommy when flipping through a baby doll magazine, “The white doll is better than the brown doll”.  Aiyana then asked, “Baby why do you say that?”  Baby girl said “You’re white”.  When my wife told me this I was like wow…how could any of the Ma’at children have a color complex and not be confident in who they are.  “Say It Loud..I’m Black and I’m Proud” is the mantra in our home so you can imagine how difficult it was for me as a father to digest the idea that my 5 year old daughter has internalized the “white is right” psychology that I’ve fought hard to prevent from being her reality.

After much thought and conversation I began to wonder if her expression was based on confusion around human color classification.  Why would she say her mom is white?  Why does she say she and I are brown and not black? Obviously this whole baby doll scenario morphed into a mangled mess in my mind so eventually after reiterrating her internal & external beauty, my wife reminded me that the world we live in is one where the predominant image of beauty is white and that it’s up to us to B Intentional about highlighting to our children the beauty in all shades of black. My wife also shed some light on how young children are often easily confused about race & skin tone and that, unfortunately, my daughter’s experience is more  common than not for young African American children. She said ” While our daughter’s words shed light on the fact that we all on some level are impacted by the predominant culture we live in and while we, as parents, have to be vigilant in making sure she knows she is beautiful—it doesn’t mean we have to label her as having a color complex or lacking confidence in who she is. What we do have to do is keep on feeding her positive, beautiful, and successful images of people that look like her.”

While I have and continue to make a point to reinforce self love and positive self images my family I urge the rest of our community to do the same.  I was a bit disheartened when I saw the below article regarding an event on the Tom Joyner Cruise.  I shook my head and said THIS IS WHY self hate continues to exist.  THIS IS WHY BlackLoveAndMarriage.com is necessary.  See the below article taken from NicoleBitchie.com

The Tom Joyner Fantastic Voyage is well known as a place where people let loose and network. This year, there was a bit of controversy with reports of rapper Foxy Brown allegedly getting kicked off the cruise because of unruly behavior, but some believe that’s nothing but daisies compared to the dodgeball game that commenced upon the ship.

Hosted by the legendary rap duo Kid N’ Play, who acted as live sports commentators, the Light Skin vs Dark Skin Dodgeball Tournament took place on the top deck of the ship somewhere around the Gulf of Mexico on the second day of the cruise. The pair took turns at poking fun at the players, and EbonyJet reports that it ended up being good, clean fun.

Kid was rooting for the lighter team (but made sure to let EbonyJet know that he still has love for dark skinned women) and made fun of team members such as Pebbles and Christopher Williams who were attempting a victory. When the dark skinned team threw the last ball of the game, Play allegedly yelled, “Nino Brown wins!”

Ebony Senior Editor Adrienne Gibbs writes:

…many onlookers shook their heads, not sure what to make of such a tourney. The Black community has a long history with light-dark issues, most of which stem from post slavery trauma. The commentators didn’t get into all that, instead leading the group to poke fun at what is often a deadly serious topic.

Who won? Who knows. It all ended with fun and jokes and hugs.

With the black community’s long-standing underlying issue with light vs dark, and our even longer-standing attempt to rid ourselves of this particular plague, why would something like this even be entertained? I can’t decide whether or not making fun of it lessens its importance, or if this is further engraving this separation stigma in our minds.

Ebony spoke with comedian J. Anthony Brown who created the light skin/dark skin competition, and added this piece to the article:

Brown, who is dark skinned, says the seriousness of our color issues are not lost on him. He is old enough to remember times when skin tone privilege was deadly serious. However, he says, he created the “challenges” as a way to bring comedy and levity to the cruise and to the surrounding issue.

“There’s always been this interbattle of light skin and dark skin,” he says, breaking from his seemingly constant string of jokes to offer a bit of serious commentary. “It’s about nappy hair and ‘you are better than me.’ It’s an inner thing that comes out. I just had this idea to add a different flavor to what we were doing. It’s therapy.”

Question:  BLAM Fam is this just lighthearted fun or a game that should never have happened?

Read more: Tom Joyner Cruise: Kid & Play Host Light Skin vs Dark Skin Dodgeball? [Updated] | Necole Bitchie.com

Minorities May Be Devoting Most Of Their Time On The Web To Entertainment

When I got my issue of Black Enterprise magazine this month I was drawn to an article titled: “Use Technology For Empowerment, Not Entertainment.” Because a major part of what we do here at BLAM is connected to technology; I found the article particularly interesting. My bottom line take away: We have to step up our game and be intentional about what we consume. Take a read of this compelling Black Enterprise piece written by Earl Butch Graves and let us know what you think.

I have always viewed technology as an empowerment tool. In fact, friends, colleagues, and employees have heard me repeatedly refer to it as “The Great Equalizer.” I just have to survey my own household to witness its advantages. My 16-year-old son routinely tracks down friends through a geolocation site or instantly accesses information for one of his classes by reaching into his pocket and pulling out his smartphone. He literally has his world—all data related to his academic and social activities—at his fingertips.

With young African Americans serving as early adopters of new devices and social media, the “digital divide” has dramatically narrowed, being quickly replaced with the “digital connection.” According to eMarketer Report, African Americans own more cell phones and use more features than any other demographic group. And the number of black Internet users is expected to grow 32% over the next several years, from 21.7 million in 2008 to 28.6 million in 2014.

Today, our most pressing issue is not the quality of our connection but the quality of our engagement. A recent USA Today article, based on a July 2010 Pew Center research poll, reported that 46% of African Americans and 51% of Latinos use cell phones to access the Internet versus 33% of whites. However, the same article reported that minorities may be devoting more time on the Web to entertainment and less time to applying for jobs, building business networks, or expanding their commercial presence.

I strongly believe that we need to become more effective in our use of the Internet, social media, and other technology to drive our businesses, expand our career options, build wealth, and promote social causes. To this day, I find far too many of my peers squandering opportunities or refusing to join the digital revolution, believing the Internet and social media is a province for youth.

Against this backdrop, I want to share my hard-and-fast rules about tech use. For midcareer professionals and established entrepreneurs who still haven’t fully embraced interactive media: Get into the game. Without a Web and social media presence, your competition will most surely eat your lunch. To quote my college basketball coach: “Never up, never in,” meaning you can’t score if you don’t take shots.

I have found that this is the case with far too many of us. For example, a close friend who is an entrepreneur routinely purchases the latest business planning software. The problem is that he never takes it out of the box. He currently has five years of software on a shelf collecting dust. Worse yet, another friend only uses tech for fun and fashion. When accessing her bejeweled iPad, she downloads gossip pages and games. I shared with her that the tablet device should serve as a valuable life management tool, not just an entertainment center. My smartphone, for example, is loaded with apps to help me manage my banking, keep track of my investments, and connect with vital business news and information in addition to obvious communications functions. To me, buying an iPad or smartphone for entertainment is like purchasing an expensive car to shuttle back and forth to the train station.

For young people who have grown up in the digital space: Innovate, adapt, and evolve. Instead of just mastering online games and text messaging, use your skill and creativity to invent the next interactive platform, digital distribution system, or proprietary product or service. Just as important, be careful of how you present yourself on Facebook or Twitter because they are often reviewed by prospective employers.

As a community, we can’t afford to spend our time online for pure amusement. To advance in our personal and professional lives, we must make connections that offer value and empowerment.

The 14th Annual National Black Herstory Conference Is March 24-25, 2011

The National Black Herstory Task Force will be holding the National Black Herstory Conference and Awards Banquet today & tomorrow. We love what they are doing and salute them for their much needed contribution to progress in our community.

These events are designed to explore and chronicle historical,literary, social, artistic, environmental and economic issues affecting women of African descent world-wide. Conferences have also included plays and literary readings at the Martin Luther King National Historic Site, (National Park Service), book fairs and exhibitions in other locations.

The conference theme this year, OUR COLLECTIVE JOURNEYS: PATHWAYS TOWARD HEALING AND FREEDOM establishes a foundation that illuminates the diverse activities, multiplicity of experience and expanding areas of leadership that historically provided the basis for the survival of women of African descent. Even into the 21st Century the lives of many women of African descent are distinguished by exploitation, oppression, injustice and self doubt. Consequently, in exploration of “our collective journeys,” the following panels through the sharing of experiences and reflections will provide information on both the public and private lives of women of African descent and their allies in their search for “pathways toward healing and freedom.”

Emory University Whitehead Biomedical Research Building Auditorium – 615 Michael Street, Atlanta, GA 30322 March 24-25, 2011 – 2:00 pm to 9:00 pm. For more info about the National Black Herstory Conference, CLICK HERE.

Countdown To Highly Anticipated “Men Ain’t Boys” DC Film Premiere Has Begun

Are you ready? Do you have your tickets? If not, you need to get them ASAP. The much talked about film Men Ain’t Boys is coming to Washington, DC March 24th 8pm sharp. We can’t wait over here at BLAM! It’s always exciting to see history in the making. It’s even better to be a part of it. March 24th at 8pm sharp—Where will you be? We hope you’ll be up in the house with us ready to watch something worth supporting. Come out and support this worthy work and meet the producers! Check out the trailer below & GET YOUR TICKETS!Not in the DC, Md, or Va area? Find screenings near you HERE. Pre-Order your personal copy HERE.

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Film synopsis: At a time when African American men are often depicted poorly throughout mainstream media Tyler New Media breaks that trend with Men Ain’t Boys. The film offers a thought provoking look at issues such as stereotypes surrounding manhood, the results of effective fatherhood and the requirements for maintaining lasting love, relationships and marriages. Men Ain’t Boys provides a blueprint for men, women and children to learn how real men live and how real men love.

Ayize & Aiyana Ma’at Featured On AOL BlackVoices.com

O.K., so we’re a little tickled and very grateful to Dr. Boyce Watkins for featuring us on AOL Black Voices and lifting up the work that we do.  It is truly an honor to be publicly recognized for contributing substance and sustenance to our community nationwide that is starving for answers and examples on how to move through “sticky” relationship stuff.  The work we do with singles and couples is real.  It’s pretty.  It’s ugly.  It’s exciting.  It’s tiring. As a community we got issues, for sure. But, wherever there is hope there can be healing.

Helping folks with their relationships definitely has it’s advantages.  It brings a smile to our faces everytime someone says thank you for the positive deposit we’ve made into the life of their relationship.  We recognize and fully appreciate the fact that the work that we do is bigger than us, it’s really about bringing healing and awareness to our family and in our community.

At the same time we wouldn’t be keeping it real if we weren’t truthful about how taxing this work can be.  Running a business, taking care of our family, making sure we continue to strengthen our own relationship, and trying to be as accessible as possible to folks can take its’ toll at times. Juggling it all is not easy….but it is necessary and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

We just wanna give a big ol’ shout out and thanks to the Creator and all of you for giving us the privilege of sharing what we’ve learned and continue to learn.  It is with a spirit of immense gratitude that we continue pressing forward and encourage you to do the same.  We frequently emphasize that relationships are the most important thing in the world.  As we continue to work on ours we challenge you to do the same. Each One. Teach One. Stop Playing. Start Pushing. 😉 To read the article where we are featured click below.

AOL BLACK VOICES SPOTLIGHT

New YOUTUBE Song Defending Lil Wayne & Challenging Little Girls ” Letter To Little Wayne”

VIDEOS: You may have seen the music video by a 9 and 10 year old girl challenging Lil Wayne and the messages and images he sends out in his music. It has almost 200,000 views on YOUTUBE and has gotten a lot of support as would be expected. Who can really disagree with 2 little African American girls who say they’re “representing”? ” Apparently, quite a few people can and have. One such example is a young man whose YOUTUBE channel is called CHASEMILLIONZ. He’s written and recorded a song in defense of Lil Wayne. So, while there are many people who support the little girls’ message….there are also many who are criticizing them for criticizing Lil Wayne. Take a listen to both songs below and let us know what you think. Let’s get some Real Talk going…

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Youtube Video Description: “Letter to Lil Wayne” is a direct statement of justice from Watoto From The Nile. Growing tired and fed up with the constant degredation of Black women inside of Hip Hop music, they voice thier views and opinions on this melodic track. Visit their YOUTUBE CHANNEL HERE. A line from their song: “My daddy told me I’m a queen but you call women other things. It makes me mad. I can’t pretend. Don’t call me out my name again.”

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Youtube Video Description:  Lil Wayne is probably too busy to respond so I did. Visit his YOUTUBE CHANNEL HERE. A line from this young man’s song: “You point a finger…criticize a man’s art…don’t know what he went through…what experience has shaped his heart.”

“A Black Woman’s Worth: My Queen and Backbone” Movie Showing This Weekend In DC Area!

TRAILER: A colleague and friend to us here at BLAM, Dwayne L. Buckingham, is helping to shatter stereotypes and rebuild the hearts and minds of black women from the inside out. He’s made a film to celebrate and lift up black women every where and we love him for it.

If you are in the DC Metropolitan area you NEED to make your way out to support him and this great work on March 5, 2011 at 2pm. There is only one screening in D/M/V (DC Md,Va area)

The film’s big premiere will be held during the much anticipated R.E.A.L. Love Celebration Weekend in St. Louis, Missouri March 24-26 at the Tivoli Theatre. There will be a Film Premiere and Panel Discussion of “A Black Woman’s Worth: My Queen and Backbone”, live musical performance, spoken word performance, and educational presentations. If you’re in the St. Louis area and want (or maybe need) to attend CLICK HERE FOR MORE DETAILS.

But, in the meantime if you’re in the DMV you get access to the exclusive screening on March 5, 2011 from 2- 3 p.m.at New Carrollton Library Get your tickets now: queenandbackbone.eventbrite.com. Check out the trailer and the film synopsis below.

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Black communities throughout the world continue to face serious social dilemmas which jeopardize and disenfranchise black women. Psychotherapist and film producer, Dwayne L. Buckingham shows males and females of all ages how to initiate meaningful dialogue and change their negative and degrading perceptions of Black women. This positive and uplifting film, “A Black Woman’s Worth: My Queen and Backbone” empowers Black women to recognize their personal and ancestral worth and celebrates them by providing strategies to prevent demoralization and burnout. Behold, Black women are beautiful. Black women are powerful. Black women are extraordinary…they are Queens.

Not in the DMV or Missouri area? PRE-ORDER your copy HERE.

To learn more about Dwayne Buckingham and his work, visit him at www.realhorizonsdlb.com