Happily Married…. But Still In Love With The One That Got Away
VIDEO: Have you ever caught a case of the green eye after you heard that your EX has moved on and is now in a relationship? It’s not uncommon….however these feelings can be a bit complicated when you have them and you ARE MARRIED. Listen in and hear our advice to this viewer that is “married to her best friend”……yet still has thoughts of curiosity about what she and her EX could’ve developed.
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This lady is in a new marriage, with a new baby, and sometimes at about this stage, the reality that marriage is a lifelong commitment will be perceived as overwhelming. I think she's unaware of the realities of "real marriage and family", and trying to "backtrack". I agree with Aiyana; she's having a "the grass is greener on the other side" moment. Looking at what you don't have is not going to help you appreciate what you do!
The remedy for this is to take a good look at people who venture outside of their marriages. Do they have success? Talk to some of them. Take a look around at the singles who are frequenting clubs trying to find what she's already got at home. We all know about them from neighbors, family and friends. Don't fall for the "okey doke"! A good marriage is the most coveted relationship known to man!
GREAT advice you two…..I can relate from that question and I learned from your advice….THANK YOU.
Great advice y'all! I am just watching 'why did I get married too' with my husband and one of the issues they talked about was the
"X-factor" now, it is a little different than you being jealous about someone who moved on as opposed to you being caught up with someone who knows your worth after you have moved on…How do you deal with that?
I've had to ignore people I've been involved with too, but it twas alsways for the sake of the greater good…not really because I made up my mind myself…question:is it really unhealthy to be friends with your ex?
"Stop Playing and Start be-that-Pushing" towards a better you -"Yah Feel Me".. Life and all it's mysteries are here for us if we deal in the real, My people. Love life love yourself unconditionally. Do you and do yourself a favor a keep thy journey forward.
Wif Life Speed!
Peace!
Ayize & Aiyana Ma'aT you two are beautiful sources out there. Please keep do-in what -it-do.
God Bless
You can not be happily married and still be in love with someone from your past. You are only fooling yourself and destroying what's in your life right now.
This is a very dangerous game that some of us play. The best thing is not to get married at all if there's an old flames that you just can't seem to get over. Do your spouse a favor and just not even say "I Do".
This normally happens when people refuse to move forward not allowing them self to grow. All of those things that happened back then were stepping stones to get you to a place of who you are today. When you intrude on the process you stop growing, stuck in a place of fear.
Things are in our past for a reason. If you are single, these rules somewhat are different. Married folks, who are going through this needs something to escape to. Most times this is a test that most fall into, bottom line losing your spouse over it all.
Remember this, the grass may seem greener on the other side. Once you get there, please do not look back, your choices are made so stay in that bed what ever the cost, remember it was you whom placed yourself there.
Rough spots for all of us are meant to be overcome, if we are no wise enough to understand this. Well growing within , we are not worthy. Time stop for no one we are the ones who waddle around in it by not growing up, hey lets not sugar cost this, it's a dangerous mind trick, so who will be the fool in the end!
Peace!
Thanks for the comment. When you said…"things are in our past for a reason"…that resonated with me. The subtleties within that statement are profound.
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