Is It Okay To Date A Man That Lives With His Parents?
You don’t have to listen long or hard these days to hear whispers and occasional shouts about the overwhelming number of black women who are single. This social phenomenon is unfortunate because Black women are beautiful, exude brilliance, and definitely deserve the best. So, if they deserve the best….what does the best look like? A viewer wrote in and asked us if it’s okay to date a man that lives at home with his parents due to these economic hard times. Listen in to hear what we think and let us know what you think by leaving a comment or submitting a video response.
Wow…Ayize and Ayana hit the nail on the head. I do agree looking at an individual's potential, passion, and will-power to succeed is important. Look for the patterns (agree). I will do my homework. But, initially it is hard to get past the superficial components. I attended some of the Congressional Black Caucus activities and I see all these beautiful black men and then they I learn what they are doing professionally and pass judgement. God is working on me. Pray for me. But it is the truth. I am not perfect but its like they got all dressed up to perpetrate a fraud. Or maybe its me. I admire a man who is willing to sacrifice now for the greater reward later. But getting past the superficial is so hard especially for independent women. I am going to update my top 5 things I want in a man…I had like 10 or 15..Need to make list shorter.LOL
Fam…I do have another question…This is for single parents getting back in the dating scene. There are a lot of single parents out here. When is it okay for your child(ren) to meet the man or woman you are dating? I struggle with this.
Kamilah
To be honest I really don't care how hard the economy is…you still gotta eat and pay your bills. If I can do it then I want a man who can maintain even during the rough times. Because if we end up getting married then I can't feel like if times are hard we might have to go live with his momma.
Uh-uh. No way. I ain't feelin livin with your momma. You supposed to be GROWN.
I agree..what ever happen to do what you have to do ( legally) to make ends meet. There are single women with or without children who go without, work multiple jobs to provide for their families. A man should be held to the same standard, unless the situation is dire so no they shouldnt live with their mother, down size, take the bus, buy off brand instead of brand items, shop at blooms, get rid of cable, the land line. Be A Man!
I think that it is ok to date someone living with their mother as long as they have some direction they are going in. Are they in school, trying to work their way up the career ladder? Do they have an ill parent they are caring for? Do they come from a different background where grown children do live with their parents? Or is he just chillin in his mom's basement? I lived with my parents when I was grown and "colleged up" with a good job because it was expected. I was not married, and in my parents house also lived my great grandma, my grandmother and one of my siblings (the other was away at school). By contrast, my husband still lived with his mom because she was chronically ill and needed his help. I would not have considered even dating him if he appeared to live with her because he was shiftless.
I appreciate yall tackling this topic. It's real out here and black women have difficult decisions to make. The clay don't look pretty until you mold it. So even if the circumstances don't look like you think they should be…you and your partner can always mold them into what you want them to be.
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It's nothing wrong with that. When my wife met me I was moving from North Carolina back to Maryland to live with my mom. I didn't have a home or a job, but I had potential. It was right after 9/11 and nobody was hiring. My wife married me anyway and I think I've lived up to my potential. Determine what is important to you and stick by your decision(s). God bless!
OMG! I have several male friends whom Car Insurance, Rent, Utilities, Phone, Food and Toiletry have gone up WITHOUT them having a pay increase!!! This has cause them to HAVE to move in with friends and or relatives. One even lost his house. So, Yes….based on these circumstances, I would. Now in order for me to continue to date him, he would have to determine his ability (Planning and/or Saving) to reestablish himself. Great day…Love you guys and this site!
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