Some Women Want To Get With Married Men…… Why?

VIDEO: What’s the attraction in messing with someone that doesn’t belong to you and messing up their relationship? There are a lot of woman out there that intentionally go after married men. Where is the respect ? Some folks are so focused on satisfying their own needs that they ignore the sacredness of marriage and the communal consequences of engaging in this “me first” behavior. This ain’t good!

Stephanie Modkins, an associated writer, offered up her thoughts in an article she wrote with the following 5 reasons she thinks women date married men:

#1 The sex is hot. Just like a lot of men, many women crave sex. As a result, when some women meet a man that they have an undeniable sexual attraction to, they rush forward and pounce. Although it’s not always admitted to, this is one reason why some women just can’t let a married man go. They love the sex and, as a result, refuse to end the relationship.

#2 She doesn’t think it’s hurting anyone. Have you ever heard the saying ‘what you don’t know won’t hurt you?’ This is a statement that some females who play the role of the other woman live by. They feel that as long as nobody knows (especially the wife) what they’re doing, it’s okay. As a result, this woman will never stop seeing the married man until things blow up.

#3 She loves the money. Some women barter sex for money. This exchange is as old as the bible. As a result, if a man has a lot of cash that he’s willing to spend on her, the other woman will go for it without any regret. It’s not that she want’s to hurt anyone or even be the other woman, she just needs help paying her bills.

#4 She believes all men are dogs.You’d think that a woman who thinks so lowly of all men wouldn’t wind up in a dirty affair. However, this idea is wrong. Because she thinks all men are dogs, she expects very little from them – including faithfulness. So it seems natural to her that a married man would cheat since that’s what all men do anyway. If you ask her about the wife, nine times out of ten she’ll tell you about the number of times she’s been cheated on by a man. It’s her justification for her actions.

#5 She needs to feel powerful. This point is where I believe Monica Lewinsky falls. Sleeping with the President of the United States probably lifted her self-esteem and made her feel powerful. It’s a trap women fall into who like to sleep with high-profile men. They get their energy and life from an accomplished man instead of finding other ways to build themselves up.

In conclusion, the other woman might just be holding onto a married man for reasons outside of love. She has her own agenda and unless it’s upset in some type of way, she will never let go. Monica Lewinsky capitalized on her infamy by writing a book and starting a business.

What do you think B Intentional Family? Why is it so easy for some women to go after another woman’s husband? Leave a comment or submit a video response letting us know what you think.

16 replies
  1. Dara Kent
    Dara Kent says:

    This is so true !!! one word : scandalous !

  2. Victory
    Victory says:

    @Cynthia-thank you for that. I can also relate to it as well. I have been on both sides. And it is very painful.

    When I did it-I tried to convince myself that it was better to be with some1 that I knew had somebody than to be with some1 who would sneak around and cheat on me…

    Isn't it amazing how satan can have our minds so warped??? That has been over a decade ago. And God has done an amazing job in this once broken, insecure person.

    I now pray that God will use me to help others gain love and respect for themselves. Because I don't care what anyone says it definitely starts with how you vaule yourself (bottomline)

    We reap what we sow….And for the rest of my life I tend to sow the right seeds! I can't afford anymore rotten fruit….:-( God bless you all…I pray for each1 of you, that God will give you long lasting, healthy relationships…

  3. Erica Mines
    Erica Mines says:

    True indeed you can’t stop someone from advancing toward you but you can choose to be entertained by it. The response and attention given thereafter will solidify the correct amount of character, moral, integrity and self respect one has.

  4. Shahidah
    Shahidah says:

    Some women see a married man and how he interacts with his wife and family and say to themselves "I want that." They want to be the wife, have the kids and the security of a healthy relationship. Sadly, they believe that they can come in and take over so they have no qualms about messing with a married man. The irony is, if he is willing to cheat on his wife he is no longer the "good man" that she imagined him to be.

    • Guest
      Guest says:

      I know that is right, what he will do too you he will do with you.

  5. llovely
    llovely says:

    Speaking from experience. The woman who went after my husband didn’t give a damn a bout me his child or what he had. And I will say people always thought we were the idea couple and so did I never thought my husband would cheat.we had our problems but I never thought it would happen to me.the woman tryed to put a baby on him and was the most devastating time in my life.and lust steps in at the most hard times of your relationship.I would say to all couples only God can heal those kinda things. I prayed and ask God if this aint the man I should be married to remove me from this marriage. Cause if the baby was his I knew it was over for me. Cause I could not live with that. But marriage is a working process.the other woman thought I was gone show her my rage tho I wanted to I don’t fight over a man.cause no one can make you have an affair he could have walked away. I almost had a sexual relationship with another man but it didn’t go that far.and it was for good reason I’m glad it didn’t.

  6. Joy
    Joy says:

    I want to get married, but men do not take relationship seriously. That is why it is hard to find a good man these days. Some men are controlling, users, abusive, much older, much younger, harasses women that reject them, liars, cheaters, does not dress properly, has sexual diseases, and other issues. I would prefer a man in a different race who treats women right, A Christian, good personality, heterosexual hunky man, tall like 6'0 feet tall, raise from a descent family, has a excellent career, and an good father of out children.

  7. othersideofthestory
    othersideofthestory says:

    1. He came after me
    2. We had a history dating back many years
    3. He lied to me
    4. I told him to stop the b.s. and to go back. He eventually did. I was saddened that a married man with children would risk his primary relationship. I had no emnity towards his wife, I figured she was like most of us, just trying to live her life the best way she could. I felt he should honor his commitment and be true to his family. I was vulnerable and he took advantage of it, but I made my own bad choices.
    5. Everything does not fit in a box – most times it's the men that come after YOU.

  8. Ronnie_BMWK
    Ronnie_BMWK says:

    That was excellent!!!! I can't tell you how many times I have heard "what I do is my business and no one else should care" people either don't know or don't care how their actions impact the community.

    And also…..for all you ladies out there looking for a married man…you betta look the other way cause I am KA-RAY-ZEE!!! haa haa..

  9. Cynthia
    Cynthia says:

    My heart goes out to women who think they found someone great but he happens to be marriage. Wake up!! It is a fantasy. Nothing is real about it. Even if he leaves her, you won't be happy let alone survive because you will always be reminded of how you got him. Sorry for being so long. This is a passionate subject for me.

  10. Cynthia
    Cynthia says:

    People who go after other people's spouses are selfish and self-centered. There is a lack of values, character and a big dose of low self-esteem. I have been on both sides of this coin. I have cheated and I have been cheated on and each experience brought nothing but heartache and pain. It cracks the very foundation of the marriages involved and it takes years to recover if you recover at all. I will never do it again. When I see the signs that something could pop and crackle, I run like hell. I learned that if you at like a whore you will be treated like one. When you're in the situation, it is like being on merry go round but when you get off, wake up, and see the big picture, you will see the FOOLISHNESS for what it really is. It not only crushes the spouse but the children as well setting the stage for another generation of self-centered people. But when you are in the mix, emotions are in full control. I learned that you can't live by your emotions

  11. Kat
    Kat says:

    Personally, I think there are a lot of desperate women out there who will do anything and I mean ANYTHING for some attention. And, I don't think they're going anywhere either. In society you always have the people that keep it stable (husbands, wives, families,, etc.) and the ones who threaten to destroy it with their reckless behavior (mistresses, cheaters, liars, etc.) Always has been and always will be like that…

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