You Need To COMPLETELY Commit In Order To COMPLETELY Connect

/in , , /by

VIDEO: How many times have you heard us say that when it comes to relationships, “You get out what you put in.”  You can’t give a half ass effort in your relationship and expect to experience wholehearted love.  It just doesn’t work that way.  You need to completely commit in order to completely connect.  No…it’s not easy.  Yes…it is possible.  The first order of business if you want to experience marital bliss is to commit to the process.  COMMIT.  Get off the fence.  Get beyond the ambiguity.  Decide despite the trepidation to COMPLETELY commit so you can COMPLETELY connect.

My Man’s The Best There Ever Was But I’m Leaving

/in , , , /by

VIDEO: There is a reason for every relationship we have in our lives. We believe the reason for every relationship is to somehow and some way help you GROW!!!! Sometimes these relationships are painful and sometimes these relationships are pleasant…..either way there is value. Take the value, the lessons learned in your relationship, and show gratitude…..even if it’s time for you to leave this relationship behind. Here, we give our view on a situation where a young lady writes in basically saying her man is wonderful….yet she plans to leave. Check out the details of this situation and leave a comment with what you think.

Husband And Wife ‘Debate’ About Natural Hair Management

/in /by

VIDEO:  In this video we reflect on a little friendly dinner time debate about natural hair management.  Ayize is sick and tired of Aiyana lamenting over the process of doing their daughters hair.  Ayize’s stance is, “If you’re gonna whine about doing it…then don’t do it”……Aiyana’s stance is “Just because I vent my frustration over the process…doesn’t mean I need to abandon the process”.  Listen in and see where this conversation goes….especially since we’re having this conversation over a glass of wine.

3 Reasons Why Oral Sex Is Sooo Important To Your Woman

/in , /by

Recently we released a video at the request of a viewer, sharing 3 reasons why a “blow job” means so much to your man.  We received a lot of comments expressing appreciation for the elaboration on the significance of oral sex.  HOWEVER, there was one statement and question that kept coming up…”Women like oral sex too.  Where’s the video for us?”  We took heed to the call, sat down on the couch, looked into each other’s eyes and created a video sharing why oral sex is soooo important to your woman.  Enjoy.

——————————————————–

 CLICK HERE for INDIVIDUAL or COUPLES COACHING

CLICK HERE to get your RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENT

CLICK HERE to have an opportunity to TELL YOUR STORY ABOUT INFIDELITY ON NATIONAL T.V.

CLICK HERE to learn how to improve the quality of your SEX & INTIMACY

CLICK HERE to get our incredible COMMUNICATION PACKAGE so you can connect like you deserve to.

Buy Now

Buy Now

Are You Playing Hide and Seek In Your Relationship?

/in , /by

VIDEO: If relationships and people were all the same “color”, “tone”, and “speed” then they’d be quite uneventful and boring. Fortunately relationships are comprised of two unique individuals that have different ways of living, being and communicating. Sometimes these differences create relationship challenges where patterns of behavior unintentionally develop. The pattern that we frequently see among couples is one of HIDE -N- SEEK. Generally speaking as it pertains to relationship issues….one person is chasing to talk through and process an issue while the other person is running away to avoid and escape an issue. This pattern of behavior eventually becomes a vicious cycle where both parties are entrenched in their roles. We become so attached to our roles that somehow without realizing it we become more more committed to playing out our parts (pursuer or withdrawer) than really looking at whether or not this behavior is working for or against us. This is unfortunate because more often than not this Hide-N-Seek routine does not lead to resolution of the issues…but rather frustration, anger, and resentment. So, what do you do??? The pursuers reading this are thinking “We have to talk!” and the withdrawers  reading are thinking “He or She has to get off my back!” Well, rest easy. We have the solution. Listen in and learn how to break this crazy and vicious cycle.

3 Reasons Why Oral Sex Means So Much To Your Man

/in , /by

A viewer recently wrote to us asking why is the “esteemed” blow job so significant to men? She said even when she’s willing to give the cookie…he occasionally indicates that he prefers fallatio. Why? In this video we give 3 reasons why a blow job means so much to your man. Enjoy.

 CLICK HERE to see 3 Reasons Why Oral Sex Is So Important To Your Woman

Fellas…Marriage Is NOT A Four Letter Word

/in , , /by

VIDEO: Usually when you hear men talking about marriage their tone may suggest that they’re being forced to endure a torturous experience. Many men are constantly looking over their shoulder reminiscing on what was and reluctantly face the “supposed” bondage and agonizing changes that lie ahead. Marriage does change men. However, change can be a good thing. As a matter of fact change is the only constant thing in life—we’re always changing. It’s up to you to determine what you are going to invest in your marriage so you can see the positive change you want to see.

Should I Lose Weight For Him?

/in , /by

VIDEO: I have been talking to a guy for about a year and everything has been going wonderful. We are both praying Christians and have found eachother to be perfect examples of the kind of spouse that we desire. However, only recently, although he met me as an overweight person, he has mentioned how my weight might be an issue for us to continue to proceed deeper into our relationship. Our feelings toward eachother have become more intense and we have gotten to a point where we want to make things official. He says that he loves me so much and believes I would be an amazing wife and an amazing mother. However, he finds that he is feeling attracted to women who are much slimmer than I am and he doesnt want to “be in looking out” (his words). He said that if I feel comfortable the way that I am, he doesn’t want to make me feel like he is trying to change me but if I also would like to do something about my weight, he would be there to support me to reach that goal and that it would benefit both of us. He said that although he is very much attracted to me (character wise, personality wise, and in that I am a beautiful woman) he feels that he does not feel that sexual attraction to me, which is definitely a crucial part of a marriage, especially since men are very visual. My question is: is this something I should be offended by? Should I accept that and try to change to help him become sexually attracted to me or should I feel that he should want me the way that I am and that his demands mean that it’s not true love? These questions keep rolling through my mind. I think he is exactly what I have asked the Lord for in a man but now I am feeling that he would be settling because most of what he wants is there not all. Also, I would not want to be in a marriage knowing that my husband is not completely in love with me and that another woman is igniting that sexual passion in him. What should I do? God bless you. Thanks for your reply.

Love Is A Liberating Experience….. If You Are Willing To Take The Risk

/in , /by

By Team BLAM

Video: Love is a liberating experience …..if you are willing to take the risk.  If you are willing to risk being vulnerable, exposed, hurt, restored, renewed, and healed love can be a liberating experience for you.  However in order to be “liberated” by love you’ve got to be willing to break free from the current comfort zone in your relationship and endure being scared as you establish a new way of being.  That new way of being may feel awkward at first, you may even resist it…but as long as you remain committed to the process we guarantee that you’ll come to realize that love is a liberating experience and love can feel so damn good…if you are willing to take the risk.

Negative Co-Workers Are A No No!

/in , , /by

By Team BLAM

VIDEO: If you are in a “good space” in your relationship…don’t be ashamed to show it and share it. If you’ve got something positive going on in your love life don’t allow the negativity you may get from your co-workers to discourage you. Listen in as this wife tries to figure out how to deal with her co-workers and their comments about her marriage. Leave a comment and let us know what you would do.