VIDEO: It’s no secret that black women outnumber black men in this country. This situation leaves many to question whether monogamy is an appropriate or realistic approach to relationships.
Listen in as we answer a viewer and give our opinion on whether or not there should be room for 3 in marriage. When you get done listening, tell us what you think of polygamy as a response to the growing number of unmarried black women in this country.
VIDEO: Being a good listener requires concentration and perhaps breaking some of the listening habits you’ve developed over time. For the most part, focus on the other individual and what they are saying, wait for them to finish, and think before you begin to rattle off a response. You’ve got 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason. Effective listening skills are critical to your success in creating and keeping relationships. Check out these 4 must have tips to help you be the best listener you can be.
By Ayize Ma’at
I’m FED UP YALL!!!!! I’ve had enough! I take great pride in running Black Love And Marriage.com and I respect the responsibility that’s attached to it. I also appreciate the awesomeness of the impact we’re having on people’s relationships throughout the world. …. BUT…I’m tired yall. I’m beginning to grow weary and sick of the process…..ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I HAVE TO WORK WITH MY WIFE…..watch and see what I’m talking about.
2 VIDEOS: Do you see the possibilities of who or what your man could be but you feel like he is not maximizing his potential? Are you disappointed with his contribution to the family and to the world? Do you feel like your attempts to inspire him fall on deaf ears? Here, Ayize Ma’at shares some critical yet simple ways to motivate him to Get Back In The Game and help him be the best that he can be.
Are you aware of what role you may play in enabling some of his behavior by not being 100% honest? Do you find yourself avoiding the issue or rationalizing (i.e., making excuses) for his lack of insight & discipline? Without your holding him accountable you run the great risk of encouraging and perpetuating the exact circumstances that you want to be rid of. Here, Aiyana Ma’at emphasizes why it’s so important to Hold That Man Accountable!
VIDEO: Couples have spats and get on each other’s nerves. We are no exception. However, the folks who know how to move and flow through the conflict are the ones who win the big prize—a successful & secure relationship. As you travel the marriage path you learn not to take each other too seriously, fuss a little, laugh a lot, and MOVE FORWARD. Watch as the Ma’at’s bring this concept to life.
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VIDEO: Hey BLAM Fam…check out the below question from a viewer and let us know what you think.
Hi,
Great website!!! thanks for all of the MUCH NEEDED help!
Our problems always arise when talking about finances, we are trying to get back on track after the economy hurt my husbands business and we need to have a vasectomy reversal as my clock is ticking, which we need to pay for too. It is a very emotional situation for me and i keep on being forceful and having no patience because I’M SCARED I am so maternal and I am 38 i love my husband so much but he does not want to go into further debt by getting a loan and I DO! because i want to get it done quickly!! If i have to wait for us to save it it could take 6 months before we are ready to start trying. I feel so angry and emotional. He is working very hard and I am too and the moment and i really don’t want further debt i know i should just trust God but i feel SOOO sad at the moment. I have a great faith but sometimes i just can’t see the positive anymore. Please help!! x
VIDEO: There are a lot of things that can contribute to the success and downfall of your relationship. One of the books that we’ve been re-reading lately is Fighting for Your Marriage by Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley, and Susan L. Blumberg. They talk about 4 destructive patterns that can occur in relationships. Today, we will discuss those four warning signs that if go unchecked can cripple a relationships’ progress and possibly lead to it’s end. Listen closely and learn what you want to avoid so that you can live happily ever after. Remember, we have to B Intentional about creating the relationships that we want to see in our lives.
B Intentional Family, Are there any other danger signs you can think of for us all to be mindful of? Share your wisdom. We all want to know because we all want to grow….most days! Lol!
VIDEO: When entering into an agreement…it’s good to have roles and responsibilities clearly defined to minimize the possibility of confusion, conflict, and drama! The same goes for a relationship. Role definition is good. However, couples tend to experience problems when they allow someone or something outside of themselves to determine what those roles should be versus defining the roles themselves. Every couple is different so every relationship will look different, right? Or are there some things meant for women and some things meant for men?
*We get asked this question all the time so we decided to pull out an oldie but goodie. Listen in and give us your opinion.
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VIDEO: Our children see us recording on a regular basis so they begged us to use our camera so they could record something. After bugging us for about 2 weeks we finally gave in and handed Asante (our oldest) the camera. He anxiously raced upstairs with his siblings and created a “good laugh”. Asante wanted to put the video on his youtube channel…which he did….but after watching it last night and having a good laugh we figured we’d also share his goofy behavior with the world. Enjoy.
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Today was Oprah’s last day doing the Oprah show. In this video Aiyana is giving her a little shout out and letting everybody know that “It’s bigger than Oprah”…..”Oprah represents an idea”. Check it out and let us know what you think.
