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Becoming One

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By Beverly Engel When I was 35 years old, I divorced my mother. I felt that under the circumstances, it was the only thing I could do. I had long felt that she had damaged me with emotional abuse while I was growing up, and during my adulthood she continued to treat me in ways [...]

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VIDEO:  Hi! I need some perspective from a loving married Black couple. I watch your advice videos and love the messages you put out there and the positivity. My question is , I’m newly engaged as of last month and my fiance lost his job the same week. This is the 2nd time since I’ve [...]

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VIDEO: This past week we challenged couples to actively demonstrate gratitude in their relationship by simply saying Thank You to the one they love for the seemingly insignificant and obviously extravagant acts of love they’ve been shown. In this video we’re gonna take humility and sacrifice to another level by challenging you to intentionally enter [...]

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By Egypt When becoming a part of a unit, the lessons that we learned as individuals….almost always become null and void. They do not lose their validity, however, we may as well forget what Saved By The Bell said love was going to be like. Before two people can claim to love each other, they must both agree [...]

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By Aiyana Ma’at I wrote this love letter to my husband about 2 years ago. I’ve been in such a lovey dovey mood lately that I decided to print this out today and give it to my boo. After seeing how much it made him smile I thought about how easy it was for me [...]

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The lines of communication in your relationship will ALWAYS be cluttered, compromised, or closed if you fail to create a safe space for effective communication to occur.  It’s not complicated. The reason why your man won’t open up and share his intimate thoughts and feelings with you is because it’s not safe for him to [...]

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The Real Reason Behind Marriage And Money Problems

March 8, 2013
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By David Roppo Without question, money problems are at the root of a substantial number of marital crises. In fact, according to most sources this issue ranks within the top 4 reasons for divorce – sharing the stage with the likes of infidelity, communication and emotional abuse. And typically, the mainstream approach to overcoming this [...]

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Guess What? It Ain’t All About You.

March 4, 2013
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By Ayize Ma’at Today I want to talk to you for a minute about 2 things I see happening all of the time in my practice working with couples. We all do these two things on some level–although some of us more than others. #1 We Personalize — i.e., we make things about us that [...]

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Trust Makes You Delusional And That’s Not All That Bad

February 27, 2013
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Trust fools you into remembering that your partner was more considerate and less hurtful than he or she actually was. New research from Northwestern University and Redeemer University College (Ontario, Canada) is the first to systematically examine the role of trust in biasing memories of transgressions in romantic partnerships. People who are highly trusting tended [...]

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The Pleasure Principle: Will You Commit To Pleasuring Your Spouse?

February 27, 2013
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By Aiyana Ma’at The Pleasure Principle. We heard Janet sing about it and I’m sure there are all kinds of images that come to mind when you read those two words. But, here’s what I want you to take away from this. Lean in…read this next part s-l-o-w-l-y and really try to take in what [...]

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