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Spend time with other couples looking for the same thing you want, a great relationship or marriage. Fabulous relationships don’t just happen. They happen because couples learn the skills to make it happen. If you don’t work for your relationship it won’t work for you. Learn why marriage is important, the sweetness of surrender, how to move from “I” to “We”, communication skills, how to manage conflict, hot monogamy, and so much more!

Come out on August 28th at 2pm and meet your instructors and other couples determined to make their relationship last. Experience a sample class, meet other couples, ask questions, and get details about Fall classes & groups.

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Can A Long Distance Relationship Work?

VIDEO: There are several core areas in a relationship that require tending to in order to increase the probability of success. If you toss long distance into the equation then some unique challenges will definitely arise. Can a long distance relationship work? Yes…we did it. Was it difficult? YES, BUT WORTH IT. Listen in for 3 quick tips on managing and caring for a long distance relationship.

How Do I Tell My Man The Sex Sucks?

VIDEO: Let’s Talk About Sex Baby!!!! It’s a normal and healthy expectation in a marriage to be satisfied sexually. Oftentimes, people are frustrated and disappointed with the poor performance of their partner. So, exactly how do you express your dissatisfaction? Here, we give a young lady some suggestions on how to bring this subject up with her partner so that she can move 1 step closer to ecstasy. Aiyana also gives an example from her relationship with Ayize to his surprise! FUNNY!!! Check it out, learn, and laugh!

Marriage Is For Grown Folks!

ARTICLE: The very first time my husband and I decided to enroll in Marriage Education classes I was so clear that there were some “issues” he needed to work on and I  was just waiting for his “Aha!” moment to come so he could let go of some of his baggage and stop working my nerves. Yup, that was  my thinking— pretty arrogant, right? Well, as each week passed what became clearer and clearer to me was the fact that I might be a bit “touched” too meaning I had some bags I needed to put down myself.  As a matter of fact I learned that I had a whole lot of baggage but I just didn’t realize it because I had been carrying it most of my life. So, I simply didn’t notice it. It was so much a part of me I couldn’t distinguish what part of me was the “real” me and what part was the “contrived” me, if you will.

You see, I believe we all have our real selves and our contrived selves. Our real selves are our most authentic and true selves. Our contrived selves are the person we’ve created  (subconsciously most of the time) to show to the world and yes even to our spouses. So how might this look in our relationships?  Check out VIDEO commentary: “Are You Keepin It Real?” .

Getting back to my original point…(ya’ll will soon learn—I can jump all around at times!), a real shift occurred in my mind, heart, and soul when I finally began to understand that the marriage God blessed me with, the relationship that I say is most important (after my relationship with The Most High) was not given to me for me to spend most of my time complaining about all of my spouse’s imperfections. Our relationships are not the place for us to let all of our stuff hang out with no regard for how that stuff is weighing us, our partner, and our relationship down. Our relationships are definitely not the place for us to revisit childhood and think that we should get everything our way. One of the biggest challenges I’ve noticed in doing work with couples is the difficulty we have with abandoning our individual agendas and moving towards what’s going to work best for the marriage. Typically, we’re so busy focusing on what our spouse is or isn’t doing that we don’t realize the part we play in perpetuating the problems we want to get rid of!

Marriage is one of the best places to grow and work on YOU if you’re up for it. Marriage is the place where 2 people can come together and pull and push eachother in love to be the best that God created them to be. Marriage is a place where one partner can model for the partner that just doesn’t seem to get it through your actions and not just your words. Marriage is a place where a brand new you can be born if we would just stop looking at our spouse, the next couple, and everywhere else outside of ourselves. Marriage can be a great place to work on SELF. Marriage is for grown folks!

Question: Why do you think people enter into marriage thinking it’s going to be nothing but a romantic cake walk?

Relationships Rule The World

VIDEO: Remember C.R.E.A.M.? Ok, maybe…maybe not. But, when WuTang dropped this acronym many people wholeheartedly embraced the mantra and made money their PRIORITY. Many people excluded the value in their current situations and elevated money to a reserved space of exclusivity. Society does the same thing with sex. Herein lies the problem…we think Money or Sex rule the world when really…Relationships Rule The World. So, if relationships rule the world shouldn’t they be the things we focus on, nurture, and protect most? If you’re trying to get to a certain level of success what is the most reliable and solid way to get there? Relationships. From the relationships with our loved ones to the relationships at work—when we take time to be intentional about giving to our relationships we are rewarded beyond expectation. Can’t see it? Check out our viewpoint on this and let us know what you think.

Rise Above Your Circumstances

VIDEO: We’ve heard the saying: “Insanity is DOING the same thing over and over again while expecting different results”. Insanity is also ACCEPTING the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. Here, Ayize & Aiyana answer a young lady who asks if she should stay or leave her man because of his ongoing irresponsibility, disregard for her feelings, and lack of effort to move his family forward. When we recognize the shortcomings in our relationship….what do we do to change them? You can’t solve your current problems with the same thinking that created them. We have to be willing to look at the stone cold reality of our situation and then recognize and accept our role and responsibility in creating and even perpetuating that which we say we don’t want. If you want something different you’ve got to do something different. Bottom Line.

The Bottom Line Episode 8- “Are We There Yet? (…in our relationship)”

Check out this new episode from our WebSeries: “The Bottom Line” that we do each and every week over at Black And Married With Kids. This week we talk about how a relationship is a continual building process and not something where you ask…”Are we there yet?” When you finish checking this episode out check out some of the other episodes from our WebSeries page by clicking on “The Bottom Line” in the Navigation bar at the top of the page.

The Bottom Line Ep 8 (Are We There Yet??? In Our Relationship) from Tyler New Media on Vimeo.

We, at B Intentional, are very grateful for the opportunity we’ve had to partner with Essence Bloggers, Lamar & Ronnie Tyler of Black And Married With Kids . This WebSeries has gotten some really honest, productive, “keep it real” dialogue going. Every week we provide clear and concise relationship advice that will end with us giving you, “The Bottom Line”. Check out the 8th episode where we talk on the topic: Are we there yet??! And, don’t forget to leave a comment letting us know what you think.

I Thought I Married A Psychic

VIDEO: One of the unspoken and unreasonable expectations we have in our relationships is that our partner possess the ability to read our minds……and we get upset when they can’t or don’t. That is so unfair! However, hidden beneath the surface of this expectation is the raw emotional need for intimacy. Listen in as the Ma’at’s discuss how unreasonable it is to expect him or her to read your mind…yet it’s completely reasonable for him or her to pay focused attention to you so that they can get an in depth understanding of how your mind, body, and spirit work.

The Bottom Line Episode 5- “Communication Is NOT A Two Way Street”

If you haven’t had a chance to check out our WebSeries: “The Bottom Line” that we do each and every week over at Black And Married With Kids, check out this episode and then check out some of the other episodes on oue WebSeries page by clicking on it in the Navigation bar at the top of the page!

VIDEO:  We, at B Intentional, are so excited about the opportunity we’ve had to partner with Essence Bloggers, Lamar & Ronnie Tyler of Black And Married With Kids. We feel this WebSeries will really get some honest, productive, “keep it real” dialogue going. Every week we will provide clear and concise relationship advice that will end with us giving you, ‘The Bottom Line”. Check out the 5th episode where we break down some communication techniques that will surely assist you in your marriages and relationships IF you apply them. Leave a comment and let us know what you think.

The Bottom Line – Episode 5 from Tyler New Media on Vimeo.

The Bottom Line Episode 3- “Can We Have Some Real Talk?”

If you haven’t had a chance to check out our Webseries: The Bottom Line that we do each and every week over at Black and Married With Kids, we will be posting past episodes this entire week! So sit back, relax, and check it out…

We, at B Intentional, are so excited about the opportunity we’ve had to partner with Essence Bloggers, Lamar & Ronnie Tyler of Black And Married with Kids. We feel this WebSeries will really get some honest, productive, “keep it real” dialogue going. Every week we will provide clear and concise relationship advice that will end with us giving you, “The Bottom Line”. Check out the 3rd episode where we tackle Emotional Intimacy in your marriage and leave us a comment letting us know what you think.