First Lady Michelle Obama Speaks Wise Words To Young Girls That We Can Definitely Apply To Our Marriages

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By Team BLAM

First Lady Michelle Obama recently traveled to South Africa and Botswana with daughters Malia & Sasha. While there she spoke to a group of young women who were participants in the African Women’s Forum and were apparently heavily impacted by her words to them while there.

In the October issue of Ebony Magazine they capture some of those words.  And as I read them while laying on my bed in my room I found myself  deeply moved as If I were there sitting next to those girls as they listened to our First Lady’s every word. And as I took the words and message in, it hit me–these words are just as relevant and appropriate for us married folks out here trying to get it right. Amazing! Read on for a little of what she said as she used Mandela’s life as a platform to inspire and empower…

“Mandela has lived through a struggle that few nations know. … There must have been moments in that jail when he thought, “This is too slow.” I am so tired. And this is never going to work,” she said. “But … if we see Mandela as hope, we would see the slowness not as a reason to stop and be impatient but to keep moving, and not get so caught up in the immediacy.”

….”The only that happens in an instant is destruction. … Build something…earthquake; it’s gone. But everything else requires time. Raising children, building a family, having a career: All of it takes time. I want all of you to continue to work fiercely, and to be impatient. But don’t let the struggle discourage you because it’s hard. It’s supposed to be hard.”

Think about it BLAM Fam: Haven’t there been moments in your marriage where you’ve thought “This is too slow.” I am so tired. And this is never going to work,” ? Nobody ever said marriage was easy but it is good, soul growing, character building, potential stretching work that is worth all of our effort and time. Don’t you agree?

What The Troy Davis Case Can Teach Our Youth

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As my husband and I sat on the couch glued to the television this evening watching every report we could find on the status of Troy Davis’s execution; I could feel my children’s  eyes on us wondering what was going on. Our oldest son then asked “Mom, who is Troy Davis?” As I looked into my 9 year old’s eyes I did my best to explain…. some might think he’s too young to understand but I know better. There are so many lessons that can be learned by our young people especially our black youth—our black boys in particular. I think Christopher Edmin , Urban Education Expert, speaks to this so well. Read well some of the lessons from his article for The Huffington Post and then sit down with your child, anybody’s child, and teach them.

1) Urban youth must be aware of this case. In many ways, they are Troy Davis.

This is especially the case for black males. Parents must let youth know that Davis has been placed in a situation that many of them could potentially be placed in as well. Many urban kids exist around crime and it’s possible that they could be a witness to one, or be accused of something they did not do. Parents should introduce their children to the case, and discuss any potential risk they have of being in the wrong place, at the wrong time. Let them know that it’s important to voice complaints about what they feel is unjust so that they can make the world better. Encourage your children to write letters, or even write a reflection about how they feel about the case. Making them feel like they are part of a social movement empowers them, and also lets them vent their frustrations constructively.

2) All youth must be wary of the company they keep. They should be taught that if something doesn’t look or feel right, they should leave immediately.

One of the most powerful pieces of the Troy Davis case is the set of events that led to the murder of an innocent man. Allegedly, Davis, was at a party, left with a friend, and got into an argument with another group of men. He then met with another man who was arguing with a homeless man. The second situation quickly escalated into the shooting of MacPhail, who came to the rescue of the homeless man. It is important for youth to know that any scenario where voices are being raised or someone is arguing with someone else has the potential to escalate into violence. When this happens, they should leave as soon as they can.

3) Remind youth that the unspoken “No snitching” rule is useless.

For many urban youth, their negative interactions with the criminal justice system have caused them to develop the idea that they should not “snitch” on each other, no matter what. The common belief is that a code of street ethics is broken when someone tells another person (especially the police) about a crime that has been committed. It is important to let youth know that this belief is often the source of an innocent person being implicated for a crime they did not commit. In the case of Troy Davis, he witnessed the shooting and did not report it. Instead, another person who has been accused to be the shooter, told police that Davis committed the crime.

4) Youth must be encouraged to describe exactly what they see. Nothing more, nothing less.

In the Troy Davis case, many witness statements that were the anchor of the case against Davis were later recanted. Witnesses mentioned that they felt pressure by the police to make statements, and in one case, mentioned that she believed that the shooter had gotten away. This pressure by the police happens too often to urban youth, and has serious implications on who gets accused and/or convicted of crimes. Parents must let youth know that they do not have to bend to pressure by those who have more power than them. The truth is always sufficient if it is told respectfully.

5) Youth must know that when all is said and done, things may not go their way. However, they must handle every situation with dignity and grace

In the Troy Davis case, one of the most powerful things has been the response of Davis and his family to the recent decision to deny clemency. Even in the face of what they feel to be unjust, the family continues to remain in good spirits and fight until they can no longer do so. This response has done a lot for furthering their cause, and brought much needed visibility to this case. This certainly does not mean that what is right has been done. However, youth must see that this response does much more to further their cause than reacting violently.


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Ladies, You Are Not Ready To Get Married IF…

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By Aiyana Ma’at

Far too often it is believed that women, generally speaking, are ready to be married, understand what marriage is all about, and have some sort of special insight when it comes to love, relationships, and…..marriage. Well, I’m here today to clear up that erroneous notion. In the work that I do with my husband coaching & counseling and teaching relationship education classes, I see just as many women who have absolutely no idea what marriage is all about—-none. So, after my husband wrote his piece titled Gentleman, You Are Not Ready To Get Married IF… , we received a flood of emails saying “Ok, so what’s up with the ladies?!” Good question.

So, here’s your answer…Ladies, You Are Not Ready To Get Married IF…

1. …you have a thousand and one things to say, think about, and contemplate when talking about your wedding and are pretty much deaf, dumb, & mute when it comes to talking about your marriage.

I remember asking a sister friend when she and her hubby to be were going to be starting their pre-marital counseling. This dummy (…yup Dummy, and I’m saying it in love…lol.) who truly knew better is gon’ say: “Girrrl, planning for the wedding is taking up all my free time! It’s crazy. We decided we’ll get around to it after the wedding and all the hoop-la dies down.” Seriously? Get your priorities in check girlfriend. Some things should just naturally take precedence and pre-marital counseling is a  non-negotiable necessity. Planning a wedding is exciting and all consuming—I get it. But, if all you can find time for is the color of the table linen and whether you should have salmon or trout I hate to break it to you but YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

2. …you’re consciously or subconsciously looking for a “father figure” to fill up the hole left in your heart by the Daddy who was absent from your life emotionally or physically as a young child.

When you have unfinished business in your heart and mind that hasn’t been attended to, it has a way of coloring every thing, place, and person you come into contact with. There are a lot of women dating truly good men and yet they don’t know it. They complain, criticize, and penalize men for any and everything they do that doesn’t meet their exact expectations. Why? Because, they are mad as hell. Mad at who though? You guessed it—-their Daddy who didn’t do his job. So, it doesn’t really matter what a man does—it will never be enough and for that my dear YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED

3. …you the boss, you running things, and “you ain’t having it!” (whatever “it” is”)

Look, I will keep it real with ya’ll. I am a leader. I can be bossy. I am quick to have an opinion and can truly be a self-centered pain in the a*! I’m a Leo. #NuffSaid 😉 But, after having been in relationship with the same man for almost 17 years what I have learned & know for absolute sure is this: There is only room for 1 man up in here. Seriously, so many times, we women (especially us “modern, I got my own, I’m doing me” sistas) sabotage our men’s ability to be men. Men, especially black men, want and need to be and feel respected, respected, and oh, did I say respected? If the thought of compromising, deferring, and taking someone else’s perspective into consideration makes you feel ill YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

4. …you think sex is a desire and not a need, an option and not a requirement in marriage.

Yes, sex is a requirement of marriage. If you have issues around sex—fine. If you just simply have a low libido—-fine. If you are  really particular about how and when it happens—fine. My question to you is this: Are you willing to press through your limitations and inhibitions so that you can meet the needs of someone  other than yourself? If there is *dead silence*  and a *blank stare” right now YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

5. …you don’t know what your needs and expectations are let alone how to communicate them to someone else.

When I counsel women who are struggling in their marriages I start by asking two questions: #1 What’s wrong, in other words, what’s not working? And, of course, I get a laundry list of all of the things that are failing in their relationship, all the things their husband is doing and not doing to make their marriage a mess. I literally have to cut them off….like, ok, I get the point. But, then I ask the second question: What do you need from hubby, yourself, the world, etc. to make it work? Nine times out of 10—and I’m not exaggerating—there is silence followed by a whisper…”I don’t know”. Before you commit your life to another make it your business to know what your needs and expectations are! For those who can be honest & say I really don’t know at this point in my life YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

6. …you know deep down inside that the relationship you’re in is not fulfilling, compatible, or fun but you’re getting older and you’re afraid you won’t find anyone better.

Where’s your faith? Do you know that what is for you really is for you? There’s nothing worse than waking up one morning after 1,3, 5, 10, or 20 years of marriage and looking over at your spouse and saying out loud “My God, what have I done?” You will save yourself from far more heartache and pain waiting for your King than to get hitched to someone out of fear of being alone. So, if you’re in the middle of planning your wedding right now, yeah YOU, and you know the shoe fits you should consider this Divine Intervention because there’s something you really need to know…YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

7. 99.9% of your self esteem comes from “the idea of” being married, having kids, raising a family, etc.

Look, I’m a wife and a mom, and as open minded as I tend to be in a lot of things—I’ve got a very traditional side to me. I love being a wife and a mommy. I love the thought of it and what I think it represents to the world. I love having a husband to protect and provide for me. I love cooking for him, my family, and I even like the term “wifely duties”. Lol. But, at the end of the day when all is said and done I look to none of those things to derive my self esteem. “I am” because God says “I am”. I’m good enough just because I exist. I love my family to death but they couldn’t give me that kind of deep abiding self worth if they tried. Only my relationship and identification with The Most High does that for me. Whew! #ImBoutToShoutUpInHere  So, if there still remains a boat load of work left for you to do on your sense of self please hear me when I say YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

8. you’re doing it because everybody else is doing it.

Really, though? Monkey see, Monkey do?  So, not only are you not ready to get married but you also ain’t ready to drive a car, own a puppy, watch R rated movies….you get the point. Stop doing stuff just because other people are doing it. You have a whole loT of work to do. So, grow the hell up already and make sure to write this down copy cat: YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

9. your girls, your mama, your cousins and nem’ are the highest priority in your life and you don’t see a darn thing wrong with that at all.

Look, leave and cleave isn’t just for the menfolk. It applies to you too. If you think you might go insane if you can’t tell your family every little thing that happens in your marriage you ain’t ready. If your knees start shakin at the thought of having to politely but firmly set down some “new rules and boundaries” with family after you get married (i.e., they can’t just pop up over the house  anymore like they used to!) YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

10. YOU ARE STILL MARRIED!!!

I kid you not. I have known quite a few women who have separated from their spouses, started new relationships, say they are in love and that the new guy is “so different” This all happens so fast that they barely have enough time to get a dag on divorce. They find themselves planning a new wedding (not marriage) while in the middle of going through the divorce process. S.M.D.H Do I really need to say it? Do I? Allright, say it with me: YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

Aiyana Ma’at is the wife of Ayize Ma’at, mom of 4, and co-founder and owner of this website, BlackLoveAndMarriage.com, as well as PurposePusher.com. Aiyana is a Seeker, Motivator, Risk Taker, Explorer, & Overcomer. She is a self-described PurposePusher and does her best to live her life with self-awareness and intention. Some of her official titles include licensed psycho-therapist, certified marriage educator & relationship coach and speaker. She is clear that a part of the call on her life is to help bring insight and awareness to others so that they can “get out of their own way” and create the lives they want to have.

St. Louis Woman Arrested For Shooting Her 4 And 5 Year-Old Kids With A Shotgun: This Is Why We Do What We Do…

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An Illinois woman suspected in the shotgun deaths of her two youngest children was arrested in Missouri after allegedly hitting three pedestrians with her car near St. Louis’ Gateway Arch, Illinois State Police said Thursday.

Authorities said they arrested the woman Wednesday night in St. Louis as she sat with a shotgun on a bench outside KMOV-TV after the wreck. Officers in nearby East St. Louis, Ill., responded shortly before to reports of shots fired and found the bodies of a 4-year-old girl and 5-year-old boy in a bedroom of the family’s apartment, state police Capt. James Morrisey said.

Autopsies on Thursday determined that each child was shot once in the head at close range with a shotgun and died instantly of the “devastating” injuries, said Danny Haskenhoff, St. Clair County’s chief deputy coroner.

The woman’s 8-year-old son managed to escape unharmed and was in a relative’s custody Thursday, Morrisey said.

Investigators have interviewed the 25-year-old woman, who remained jailed Thursday in St. Louis, and “have an understanding” of why the shootings happened, Morrisey said without elaborating.

A spokeswoman for the St. Clair County, Ill., prosecutor’s office said no charges were expected Thursday, though they could be filed Friday.

Word of the woman’s arrest sparked celebrations among a throng that gathered Wednesday night outside the apartment where the killings took place.

“This is a horrific scene inside,” East St. Louis Police Capt. Bobby Cole told reporters before gesturing toward the onlookers. “Once we got word of her being in custody, they erupted in praise and clapping of the hands.”

The suspect’s relatives told media outlets she recently had been prescribed medication to treat depression or a mental illness.

Word is that the woman lost her mind after being laid off.

Words cannot begin to really convey the deep hurt we feel in our hearts. Two beautiful children’s lives are DONE…OVER. This is senseless. How must this young mother have been feeling? I can only imagine. We read some comments across the web from folks who passionately expressed their pain and anger over this incident. Here are 2 such comments (Warning: These reactions are raw and “in your face” to say the least. We did not alter.)

“I’m sorry. But I can relate to her. I haven’t hurt my children, but I too am a single mother of 3 and I’m 25. I face many issues. Reading stories like this keep me strong kind and LOVING to my children. Because its not their fault. (Although 2 of them came from rape). It does get very hard. Especially if you dnt hv any family support(like me) or friends you trust. What we need is GOD. Anyone can snap. ANYONE. So calling her names and saying what should happen to her is not going to change WHAT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU. We are all capable of murder. We need to find our salvation in JESUS. This is the only reason why I haven’t gone crazy and killed my self. The love that God has shown me kept me. I am still very kind motivational loving and sweet. You would never be able to guess I’ve been thru what I hv. We all hv a choice. She could hv chosen differently, but look at how society deals with “emotions” now a days. We are cold and heartless. Lets be more caring and supportive for a change!!! Bet NO ONE gave a f about them kids until they were killed!!!!”

The below comment is in response to the one you just read.

“If you can relate, keep your FU*K*K*ING LEGS closed and STOP having babies with men that cant afford them! Its that ny*g*ah syndrome thats a problem within our society. Black women feel they can do rear children alone and that makes them independent and strong! Well I have news for you: it makes you STOOPID and wore out! Yes black women are strong, but why raise a child alone if you dont have to!!? Wait to you meet a decent man, get to know him, and have you thought of the word “marriage?” Look up the definition of that word! You can get a ring you know?!! Uggh.

I have an ex-friend who has two children with a man thats a deadbeat. He’s in his mid 20’s, no job, a dirtbag, petty hustler, no secondary education and no clue. He didnt want the two kids she had, which or now 5 and 7, and she constantly complained about him and his trifling ways, and how she wants to do better. Instead of doing better, what does she do? Gets pregnant with her third child by the same man,and is due any day!!! Real STOOPID… Im tired of black men’s sorry, a*z*Z behavior but unfortunately the women know they’re dealing with trashy men, but are willing to accept ANYTHING to say they have a man, which in reality THEY DONT, and the kids are the ones who suffer! So STOP being a piece of trash and doing ny*gger shy*te, use A CONDOM or all the other HUNDREDS of birth control thats available to you!! Stop blaming society for your OUT-OF-WEDLOCK BIRTHS and Hood mentality. Trifling A*Z*Zes keep breeding trash: Hoes andCriminals. Get a clue, people are sick of you! If you can afford them DONT have them. The world is over as we know it. Middle class is disappearing and gov’t money is running out. The Recession is real, dumb dumb!!”

Our question is this BLAM Fam:

How might this young lady and these childrens’ lives have played out if she had the support of a strong husband and a strong family system?

Our prayers and silent meditations are with this young lady, her surviving 8 year old son, her family and each and every man, woman, and child in our community out here trying to make it—-trying to survive.

Source: Associated Press

What Do Will & Jada (…And Their Marriage) Mean To Our Community?

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By Neysa Ellery Taylor

By now you’ve heard all the reports: “Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith are getting separated” and “Will & Jada deny split: We are still together“. I am amazed at the number of tweets and facebook postings that have been dedicated to this couple. Statements ranging from “Pray for the Smiths” to “Oh NO say it ain’t so!” have populated my twitter feed this morning. Here is my question for everyone that is looking at the Smiths, have you prayed for your own marriage lately? What about the state of all marriages? Why do the Smiths garner your special prayers?

I understand that they are the King and Queen of black Hollywood. I get it. What I also see is that they were an example of everything we aspire to be – smart, beautiful, talented, rich, and in love.  But, I’m also willing to bet that while we’re all tweeting and posting away on FB about the Smiths many of us haven’t taken the time to have one focused thought today about how we can work on being smart, beautiful, talented, rich, and in love in our own lives. It is so much easier to live vicariously through someone else than to put in the work to make it happen in your own life.

The Smiths are our ideal. Just like the Obamas. But while we are putting people and couples on pedestals, we must stop to remember that 1. They are human, and 2. They owe us nothing. We made them the black family ideal. In reality, they are just 2 people trying to make a marriage work. It’s hard enough stay married without the public glare, but can you imagine it when a whole community has their hopes and dreams placed upon your shoulders?

If we are to learn anything from this separation rumor, maybe it’s to stop and appreciate your own relationship. Go home tonight and hold your spouse’s hand. Kiss them a bit deeper tonight. Pray a bit harder for God’s covering upon not just your family but all families. Maybe tonight is the night to let the argument go. Maybe right now is the time to reaffirm your commitment to your own covenant. Maybe that is the lesson that we are to learn from Will and Jada.

Neysa Ellery Taylor lives in Nashville, Tennessee with her husband, Chris, and their 4 children – Asyen, Maya, Preston, and Patrick. An Emmy-Award winning journalist, she hopes to share her passion for marriage and God through her writing. You can read more of her work at www.myriadthatisme.blogspot.com.

Is Idris Elba Sexy? He Says Black Men Aren’t Really Described As Such.

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By Team BLAM

Is Idris Elba sexy?  Many of you are probably thinking, “BLAM, that’s a dumb a$$ question!” lol.  I guess the ooh’s, aahhh’s, and daaayumms that come from women’s mouth’s (my wife included) when watching him on the big screen is enough of an answer.

Side note:  I had to throw an elbow at Aiyana in the movie theater because she was so fixated on the screen when he was half naked in “Takers”.  lol.

We recognize that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, what’s ugly to me may be “fine as hell” to you…and that’s cool.  In the above interview with Life Files TV, Idris says black men are described as intense and athletic….but not really sexy.  Check out the interview and let us know what you think.  I’m wondering if black men aren’t described as sexy…..then is sexy described as NON- BLACK.  HMMMM

Steve Harvey Apologizes To Cornel West And Tavis Smiley For Calling Them Uncle Tom’s

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By Team BLAM

Earlier today, Steve Harvey took to the airways and used his public platform to apologize to Cornel West and Tavis Smiley for calling them Uncle Tom’s.  He specifically acknowledged that considering the work Cornel has done he definitely doesn’t deserve to be labeled an Uncle Tom.  We at BLAM feel that it’s o.k. for Steve Harvey to express his opinions about Barack and other political figures but we strongly feel that when disagreeing on a public stage RESPECT must always be present.  We give big props to Steve for apologizing and setting the record straight.  In his comedic fashion, after apologizing he went on to say he meant everything else tho’.

CLICK HERE to listen to Steve’s Apology

Shaunie O’neal HATES That Fights Are What Bring Ratings To ‘Basketball Wives’

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By Jasmine Hughes

The drink slinging, cat fighting and name calling drama has become the calling card of the nationally syndicated show, “Basketball Wives.” However, we are starting to get wind of a bit of remorse from the shows creator, Shaunie O’Neal, as she claims this is not what she signed up for.

The former basketball wife says her intentions for the show were to highlight the bond between women who understood what it was like to be married to an athlete, but now expresses, “I feel like that show is turning into ‘I have slept with a basketball player at some point in my life, so now I’m on Basketball Wives,” she told FOX news. “That’s definitely not what I brought to the table and not what I would be proud of having my name on.”

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Steve Harvey Calls Tavis Smiley and Cornel West “UNCLE TOM’s”

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WOW….Where’s the love people?  We at BLAM respect Steve Harvey, Cornel West, and Tavis Smiley each for different reasons.  We think that there’s room in our community to voice approval and disapproval of “our people” and our process as we all try to push to the next level.  But….at the end of the day it’s all about your approach.  That’s what we advocate here….personal responsibility for getting your message heard and understood.  Not sure that’s what happening in this exchange…..Tell us BLAM Fam if you think either one of the brotha’s are justified in their sentiments and how they’re going about it?

Source: Loop21

By Maurice Garland

Earlier this week during his syndicated morning radio show, Steve Harvey went in on Tavis Smiley and Dr. Cornel West for their constant criticisms of President Barack Obama.

After reading an email from a listener who insisted that Smiley and West’s current Poverty Bus Tour was nothing more than a hustle, Harvey added his two cents blasting the duo for using personal vendettas to go out and sully the POTUS’ name.

“I was a huge fan of Cornel West,” he said. “[But] Tavis, I seen him coming a mile away. His anger started when he had a town hall meeting, President Obama couldn’t come because of the campaign trail and he sent Mrs. Obama. He has held that grudge every since.”

To West’s squabbles about not getting extra tickets to Obama’s inauguration, Harvey offered, “Have you ever been invited to the damn inauguration? Did Bush send for you? Did Clinton send for you? Did Reagan send for you?”

He continued, “You don’t have any real basis behind your dislike for this man…you keep masking it saying it’s not about hate. Then what is it about? Poverty existed before January 20, 2008. Where was your damn bus then?”

The Original King of Comedy, Family Feud host and suit designer didn’t stop there. After reading Smiley’s request that Obama join him for “a roundtable for two or three days on poverty,” Harvey joked, “Who in the hell got 2-3 days for your ass? I ain’t got time to sit down with your monkey behind for two, three days, let alone the President of the United States. We got three wars going on, the economy crashing and we going to sit down with Tavis ass for three days?”

Harvey ended the rant insisting that somebody is paying Smiley and West to produce the Poverty Tour, asking “where are you getting the money for these buses?” But not before performing a skit where he said he was the president of UTLO.org (which stands out for “Uncle Tom Look Out”) and that he spotted an “uncle tom” driving a bus.

“Make sure you don’t get on the poverty bus,” he mocked. “Because if you ain’t po’, when you ride the bus, you become po’.”

BLAM’s HOT TOPICS 08/1/11 – 08/8/11

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Stay up to speed with the current events of the week. Check out BLAM’s HOT TOPICS as it relates to the black experience and beyond.

1.  Will Black Women Marrying Outside The Race Inspire More Black Marriages?  2. Man Jailed Indefinitely For Spreading HIV  3.  Is Planet Of The Apes About Black Folks?  4. Why Comparing Obama To A “Tar Baby” Hurts Us All  5.  Public Masturbation Site Urges Flashers To Target Black Women  6.  Male Rape Victims: Sexual Violence Toward Men Around The World  7.  50 Things You May Not Know About President Obama On His 5oth Birthday

WILL BLACK WOMEN MARRYING OUTSIDE THE RACE INSPIRE MORE BLACK MARRIAGES?

Audrey belongs to the most unmarried group of people in the U.S.: black women. Nearly 70% of black women are unmarried, and the racial gap in marriage spans the socioeconomic spectrum, from the urban poor to well-off suburban professionals. Three in 10 college-educated black women haven’t married by age 40; CLICK HERE to read more.

MAN JAILED INDEFINITELY FOR SPREADING HIV

A Canadian court has decided that a man convicted of murder through HIV transmission is dangerous enough to be locked up indefinitely. Johnson Aziga had unprotected sex with at least 11 women who were unaware of his condition, seven of whom became infected and two of whom died of AIDS-related cancers.  CLICK HERE for more.

IS PLANET OF THE APES ABOUT BLACK FOLKS?

“Though it was intended to be show support for black people’s fight for human rights, it relies on the racist notion of black people being not being fully human, choosing monkeys of all animals as stand ins for black people. It also played into the issues of skin-color hierarchy, making lighter apes more intelligent than their darker, more uncivilized counterparts.”  CLICK HERE for more.

WHY COMPARING OBAMA TO A “TAR BABY” HURTS US ALL.

GOP Representative Doug Lamborn from Colorado decided to stir the racial fire in the recent debate over the debt crisis this past weekend. In his remarks about President Obama, Rep. Lamborn said that being associated with President Obama is “like touching a tar baby.”  CLICK HERE for more.

PUBLIC MASTURBATION SITE URGES FLASHERS TO TARGET BLACK WOMEN

With instructive tips such as time of the day to carry out the habit, as well as especially easy locations to make a getaway (subways and other forms of public transportation are constantly mentioned), the website essentially discusses the best ways to flash and not get caught.  “No white women over the age of 25 unless you have a wicked getaway plan. Flash Asian women or black women, Asian’s are too embarrassed to call the cops and black women think it’s funny.”  CLICK HERE for more.

MALE RAPE VICTIMS: SEXUAL VIOLENCE TOWARD MEN AROUND THE WORLD

Al-Jazeera’s “Inside Story” team reports, male rape is quite common, affecting hundreds of thousands of men around the world each year. Sometimes even ignored by the United Nations, “forced homosexuality,” is used as a tool for torture and humiliation. Due to this, rape of men is often not even recognized as a crime.  CLICK HERE for more.

50 THINGS YOU MAY NOT KNOW ABOUT PRESIDENT OBAMA ON HIS 50TH BIRTHDAY

1. He and Bill Cosby are the only people to ever get free food from Ben’s Chili Bowl. 2. He ate dog meat, snake meat, and roasted grasshopper when he lived in Indonesia.  3. He says his favorite children’s book is “Where the Wild Things Are.”  4. He owns a pair of boxing gloves signed by Muhammad Ali.  5. He collects Spider-Man and Conan the Barbarian comics.  CLICK HERE for more.