Does Your Walk Hint That You Want To Have Sex?

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By Vinita Mehta, Ph.D.

When it comes to men, do women use their gait as bait?

When a woman is ovulating, watch out. In keeping with the evolutionary aim of reproductive success, whether she likes it or not, she will be gripped by the urge to mate. Like other mammals, it seems that human females also experience sexual heat, or estrus. Unlike some of our primate relatives, however, they do not publicize their ovulation through swelling of the genital area. Rather, it has been long believed that females evolved “concealed ovulation” in order to keep a male guessing as to when she was most likely to conceive — essentially a tactic to maintain his long-term sexual interest. If a male doesn’t know when a female is most fertile, the theory goes he will keep trying to impregnate one woman over time rather than stray, and then stick around to help raise the child. But as it turns out, the human version of female estrus may not be so hidden after all. A burgeoning body of research reveals that women experience an array of changes that dial up the sexual heat at mid-cycle.

As a woman succumbs to the hormonal cocktail served up by ovulation, she will experience a range of involuntary shifts that signal her sexual receptivity. Physically, she will speak in a higher pitch,smell better, and appear more flushed as a result of increased blood vessel activity. Behaviorally, she will wear more sexy and revealing clothes. Cognitively, she can delude herself into believing that an appealing cad could be a good potential dad. In other words, she’s a lot more Saturday night than Monday morning.

Women also engage in nonverbal communication as a way to express sexual interest. And like any mating dance, choreography is key. Previous research has found that women — more so than men — convey sexual intent nonverbally through, for example, nodding, leaning forward, self touching, hair flipping, and hair tossing during courtship or whenflirting. But what French researcher Nicolas Guéguen wanted to know, quite simply, is whether or not a woman has a sexier gait when she is ovulating. This had yet to be studied.

In order to investigate whether a woman’s walk changes, Guéguen devised a clever study that involved some undercover work.

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Ever Thought About Trying Tantric Sex To Spice Up Your Love Life?

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By Ethan Vorly

Is Tantric Sex simply a technique for making sex last longer? Is it a technique to make orgasm more pleasurable, longer and more intense? Or is it something far greater which most people cannot even begin to conceptualize?

For the ordinary individual the idea of an orgasm that can fill your entire body and go on in pulsating bursts for hours on end sounds totally preposterous! But what if this is exactly what Tantric Sex can lead to? What if the orgasm we have all experienced is simply the release of a tiny amount of sexual energy into the genital area which stimulates the many nerve endings located there, thus giving us a pleasurable sensation? What if sexual energy could be controlled and circulated throughout the body to stimulate all nerve endings and thus cause an orgasm that fills the entire body?

Did you know that 40% of your daily energy goes into the production of sperm or eggs. When a man ejaculates he loses an enormous amount of energy and usually becomes tired as a consequence. For a female it is menstruation that leads to a loss of sexual energy but for both the consequences are the same. A huge amount of highly charged sexual energy is lost which could have been used for greaterhealth and pleasure.

What if you could stop the loss of sexual energy and thus build it, cultivate it and circulate it throughout your body? Does it not make sense that with so much more energy to use your physical body would become stronger and healthier? Does it not also make sense that with more energy you will be able to have much more sex, for much longer periods and with greater pleasure? Well this is exactly what does happen and it can lead to full body orgasms that you could not even begin to imagine!

Another aspect of the cultivation of sexual energy is that it puts pressure on your emotions. During a woman’s cycle she builds up sexual energy which gets to a peak just before menstruation where the energy is evacuated with the eggs anduterine lining. At this point she may become very emotional and may even feelphysical pain from the built up energy. Once it is released she is suddenly relaxed again and her husband can also relax! When a man has not ejaculated for a while he may become agitated, obsessed with thoughts of sex and be unable to concentrate. He may also become more emotional. His testicles will become swollen and he will feel physical pain due to the build up in energy. When it is released he feels immediate relief and can think straight again.

If someone was to begin cultivating their sexual energy they would inevitably be confronted by emotions which the extra energy is putting pressure on. If they instead of releasing the energy, continue to cultivate it these emotions will be brought to the foreground of consciousness until they are cleared or changed. In this way the person’s emotional energy is actually transformed through the cultivation of sexual energy and they may become free of emotional issues. This is very important to understand because it is emotional issues which prevent sexual energy from flowing throughout the body in the first place.

Emotional issues cause blockages in the flow of energy and therefore prevent the flow of sexual energy during sex. Due to this people’s sexual energy is trapped in their genitals where it cannot be cultivated. The genitals can hold only so much energy before they must release it. Therefore you cannot cultivate sexual energy without also unblocking the paths for it to travel into the body.

The possibilities of pleasure are truly infinite but it involves a process of clearing! Tantric sex is not just about having better sex. It is about an actual transformation of energy which frees you from past conditioning and opens you up to experiences of a higher nature. Only with clear energy channels can sexual energy flow freely throughout the body and lead to true ecstasy!

Learn more about Tantric Sex at: www.tantricsecrets.com . Learn more about Metaphysics, Alchemy and Spiritual Transformation at www.alchemyrealm.com . Best wishes, Ethan Vorly

3 Reasons Why Oral Sex Is Sooo Important To Your Woman

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Recently we released a video at the request of a viewer, sharing 3 reasons why a “blow job” means so much to your man.  We received a lot of comments expressing appreciation for the elaboration on the significance of oral sex.  HOWEVER, there was one statement and question that kept coming up…”Women like oral sex too.  Where’s the video for us?”  We took heed to the call, sat down on the couch, looked into each other’s eyes and created a video sharing why oral sex is soooo important to your woman.  Enjoy.

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Dumb Sex Rumors That Some Folks Still Seem To Believe

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By: Solae’ Dehvine

Sex is one of the oldest and probably the hottest topic ever discussed….sorry God.  No matter what you say or do it’s practically impossible to escape its presence because it permeates nearly every part of our daily existence.  And I’m not saying you should run from sex.  Sex is a beautiful thing.  What I’m advocating for is responsible sex.  Responsible sex begins with being informed.  I want people to stop spreading lies about sex so I’ve created a list of  the top 10 dumb things people have told you about sex and why you shouldn’t believe them.  Check them out and let me know what you think.

Rumor: You can’t get pregnant while on your period

Truth: Having sex during a menstrual cycle or the first few days of menstruation will not keep women from getting pregnant. Maybe people think because menstruation is the “cleaning cycle” and they think that the sperm will be cleaned out too. But if you didn’t know sperm can live inside for up to 5-7 days.

Rumor: She got pregnant by giving head.

Truth:  I wanted to slap the braces off the girl that told me this. We were in 9th grade so maybe she really believed it but I didn’t. Unlike her I paid attention in health and knew that your stomach and ovaries had nothing to do with each other. Supposedly the girl that was walking around our school with a big belly was giving head, swallowed, and “mysteriously” got pregnant. Yeah…. Right. What she neglected to say was that while the girl was giving a BJ somebody else was penetrating her. Slap whoever tells you this…tell em I told you to do it.

Rumor: No need to wear a condom baby, I’ll just pull out.

Truth: No Yo butt won’t because I’ll be pregnant or worse contract an STD. Before a man ejaculates there’s a small amount of lubricating fluid (pre-cum or pre-ejaculation) that exits the penis to sort of “clear the way” for the big event. Men don’t normally feel this happening so they won’t know to pull out. Pre-cum sometimes has sperm in it and STDs such as HIV can be contracted from it. Make him put a condom on.

Rumor: But if he cums in me I can just douche it away.. no big deal.

Truth: Wrong again grass hopper. By the time you get to a douche the sperm would have already come in contact with the egg and you definitely would have contracted a disease. Even if you do it immediately after it’s too late. Try again

Rumor: Well, let’s have sex in the pool. You can’t get pregnant that way.

Truth: A sperm’s prime responsibility is to find an egg and fertilize it. Whether you’re in water or not isn’t going to stop that from happening. Don’t confuse ejaculating into a pool and getting pregnant with this. That is two different things and no you can’t get pregnant if someone ejaculates into a pool. Pool water has too much chlorine and is probably too cold for sperm to live longer than a few seconds.

Rumor: I won’t get pregnant the first time I have sex

Truth: A lot of women believed this and ended up in labor nine months later. Whether it’s your first time or hundredth time you can still get pregnant. Proceed with caution either way.

Rumor: He has to cum inside me for me to get an STD

Truth:Nope, contact is all you need to get an STD. STD cells and bumps can live on the external portions of our genital areas. Better be safe than sorry and wrap it up.

Rumor: I’ve had a few female problems; I’m not going to get pregnant.

Truth: Unless you have a full hysterectomy there is always a chance that you can get pregnant. A doctor saying “you probably won’t get pregnant” is not a 100% full proof situation. Anything is possible.

Rumor: Even if you can possibly get pregnant in the water you still can’t get an STD.

Truth: Whatever the fascination is with water this is still false. You can contract an STD from water sex. Women are known for contracting urinary tract infections and yeast infections from water sex as well.

Rumor: I can’t get pregnant while breastfeeding.

Truth: I can sort of see the logic in this misconception since while breastfeeding you usually don’t menstruate but you can ovulate without knowing and menstruation will return eventually. Just because you can’t see or feel anything doesn’t mean things aren’t happening.

There you have it. Don’t say Solae’ didn’t try to teach you something. Now go spread the word and stop believing everything you hear.

Solae’ Dehvine: Pronounced just the way its spelled. Solaé is straight forward to say the least. But with a contagious charisma that draws people in and holds them hostage. Simply courageous and is afraid of no one and nothing. Never have you met anyone as sexy and like-able but yet so real. Sadly, you probably never will.

Talking Dirty: Ladies…Is It In You?

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By: Cinnamon Spice

For some people, talking dirty comes naturally. These are the same people who always know what to wear to seduce a man, the same people who know where all the great hotspots are, and those who seem to have no inhibitions whatsoever.

For the rest of us, however, learning to talk dirty might not come that easily!

There are a few surefire tips that will get you started in learning to talk dirty. These are things you can do today – right now! – that will get you on the road to dirty talk success.

Make a list. Sit down and brainstorm a list of dirty words. Phrases, sentences, single words – it doesn’t matter. Just make them all hot and dirty. Write down every dirty word you have ever heard. If you start to blush while you are writing out your list, then you know you’re on the right track.

Read them aloud. Stand in front of the mirror and read the words out loud. Make sure you are alone, so you won’t run the chance of being embarrassed by an unexpected visitor. Say the words slowly and carefully, listening carefully to each one. Watch yourself in the mirror as you say the words. It might seem silly, but there is a method to the madness! The more comfortable you are saying the words to yourself, the more comfortable you will be in saying them to a partner.

Let your fantasies run wild. When you fantasize about something, throw in a lot of dirty talk. You know what you like, and you know what you want – now say it! Crawl into bed with your favorite vibrator and your dirty mind, then describe everything you see in your head. Say it all out loud. Which words turn you on even more? Which ones make you uncomfortable? This is important, because you are learning what dirty talk does for you.

Practice all the time! The more you say the words, the more comfortable you will be. Talk out your fantasies and talk to your mirror until you can say anything with a straight face. Then play with your voice – does a sultry growl sound better? Does your voice naturally drop or become sexier when you say the words that turn you on? Focus on that…what can you do to make the words sound hotter?

These are just the “tips” of the iceberg when it comes to talking dirty. If it feels awkward at first, don’t worry – most people have the same problem. You can learn how to talk dirty and soon you will be saying those naughty things to your lover as if they were as natural as breathing. Try it and see.

The Forgotten Art Of Kissing

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By Brett Smith

Do you remember your first kiss with your sweetheart?  Was it exciting or were you anxiously anticipating it’s ending?  Regardless of what those initial emotions were…..I’m certain over the course of your relationship you experienced moments where you wished the lip locking lasted “almost” forever.  It’s important that in our relationships we cherish those moments and be intentional about making them more frequent instead of accidentally becoming few and far between.  Check out the passionate piece below by Brett Smith and let it serve as a reminder that kissing is key to a healthy relationship.

Sleeping Beauty knew the power of a kiss. Fated to sleep for a hundred years, she was awakened from her trance by her Prince’s lips, and everyone lived happily ever after. Kissing, snogging, smooching, is an integral part of fairytale mythology, romantic novels and famous films. However, in Western sex-obsessed society, kissing is overlooked as an end in itself. Be honest. When did you last enjoy a really passionate pash?

“Many people, particularly if they’re in a long-term relationship, often skip the kissing stage when they begin to make love,” says Susan Quilliam, author of Women On Sex. “But it’s such a shame—kissing is one of the sexiest, most exciting and intimate things a couple can do.”The deep tongue kiss can be a second penetration, while a light kiss or a brush with your lip across a partner’s neck, shoulders or back can spark a rush of erotic reactions through their body. That’s the beauty of kissing. It works in all sorts of places.

As Alex Comfort, in The Joy of Sex, writes: “If you haven’t at least kissed her mouth, shoulders, neck, breasts, armpits, fingers, palms, toes…you haven’t really kissed her.”  The way we kiss – like the way we make love – can, over time, become habitual. And with habit, our sensations gradually shut down. So the answer is to shake things up a bit.

“Be inventive,” Olivia St. Claire urges in 203 Ways to Drive a Man in Bed. “Use your lips, your tongue, your teeth. Press hard. Brush softly. Suck, lick, and bite. Linger lovingly, press passionately. And respond sensitively to his lip manoeuvres. This is not a solo tune but a lovely, harmonious duet.”  When we kiss a lover for the first time our knees go weak and wobbly. It’s a wonderful feeling and it’s worth repeating. So rediscover the kiss, and explore the erotic potential of your lips.

Brett Smith is not your average health and online datingexpert. He has some interesting and controversial views on health and how singles can get through the dating scene successfully published on partner4real.com.au

11 ‘Mundane’ Things Men Do That Turn Women On

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By Sasha Brown-Worsham

If you believe romance novels, the only things that turn women on are long walks, moonlit meals, and sex by candlelight(Enya for the win!). In fact, women are so much more complicated than that.

A man may get turned on by the mere sight of his nude wife. Porn gets his engine revved in a hurry and, though many men also have unique turn-ons, we women tend to get fluffed about things that may SEEM mundane to the average eye.

If you have ever seen a joke book on “porn for women” that includes men in aprons cooking dinner, then you know what I mean. We ladies have a host of seemingly mundane turn-ons that really get us going. In that spirit, here is a list of 11 mundane things that men do to drive us wild:

  • Wash the dishes: This may be the ultimate female cliche, but it’s so true. When your man gets sudsy and does it without being asked, it does put a lady in the mood.
  • Take a work call: There is something about hearing my man talk all authoritatively that really does it for me. Maybe it’s because I rarely get to hear him talk that way, but I could listen to him take a conference call all day long.
  • Work out: There is something about him taking the time to care for his body that is just hot. Even more hot, though, is how he looks when he comes back all sweaty and manly. Sometimes my husband and I work out together and it always makes me want to pull him into the bathroom and kiss him.
  • Cook dinner or bake: There is something about a man who appreciates good food and who can make it as well. My husband and I always make our kids’ birthday cakes and watching him carefully ice and decorate them fills my heart (and other parts as well)
  • Drink whiskey straight-up: This is just MANLY. It’s beyond sexy. I like a man who can fix things or drink hard liquor or take a punch. It’s just that raw masculinity.
  • Drive standard: Much like whiskey, driving standard is kind of a man thing. If he can do that, what can he do to me?

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Let Your Man Be With Another Woman Tonight…Try A Little Role Play

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By Ruth Purple

Sex if done monotonously and habitually, it becomes boring. That’s why men concocted the art of role playing in sex. Role playing is when you carry out all your sexual fantasies and let go of your sexual inhibitions. Since we were kids, we all love to play pretend to alleviate boredom- boys wear their cowboy hats and little toy guns and pretend to be this big-ass-sharp-shooting cowboys while girls wear their glittering tiara with a colorful scepter in hand and pretend to be this beautiful princess. Now that we are adults, role playing takes a different definition- it’s more realistic and very sensual but has the same purpose- to keep us away from getting bored.

It’s every man’s dream to do role playing in sex. Since men are easily aroused by visual stimulation, role playing is one perfect material to spice up the sex life. It also excites the couple intellectually or mentally because you will be able to know your partner’s inner desire and what really electrifies him. We all want to play pretend games but the problem is how to open it up with your girlfriend or boyfriend without the violent reaction of embarrassment or walking out or worse slapping you in the face. If you’re a woman and you want to play pretend, it’s easier to relay the message to your partner without much worry about the violent reaction, pretty sure he’ll be ecstatic to hear that you want to play pretend.

It’s quite different for a man to tell her woman, especially if she’s too conservative and old- fashioned, getting her to play pretend maybe close to impossibility. But don’t lose hope, you know the cliché- “if there’s will there’s a way” it’s a fact, so never lose that will to ask your woman to do role playing with you. The most practical thing you can do is to have the timing and the right place where you can tell her what’s on your mind- the right time and place may be the two of you sitting in a couch in front of the fire place talking about sweet nothings then try to insert your longing for her in a role playing game but don’t tell her all the details yet- it might freak her out.

Try to begin your request with an assurance-like “you know what honey, I love you so much and you mean the world to me… and I want us to make the most out of our relationship in every aspect.” Then continue with a flattery- “you are so hot and beautiful that I can’t stop thinking about you at times…” then you can drop the bomb in a subtle manner- “ I can’t help it, honey but in spite of how long we’ve been together, I can’t help but to fantasize about you all the time- how’d I wish we can do this fantasy of mine together, I’m sure this is going to make our relationship more exciting and thrilling, you want that, won’t you?” You know she’s okay with it when she’s going to ask you what do have in mind.

Then, tell her what role playing is all about and what it can do. She’ll be reserved at first but try to assure her that it’s okay and it’s a special thing for both of you. Role playing is indeed a special thing for both of you, if you allow your sexuality to flow, it can really spice things up in your relationship and it’s also a great way to know your partner deeper.

Good Sex Is About Way More Than Just Chemistry

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By Lynn Margolies, Ph.D.

Sometimes sexual problems are the body’s way of communicating a message to us that cannot yet be put into words or understood. In this vein, symptoms — psychological, emotional or sexual — can be seen as unwavering messages from the heart, boldly alerting us to our innermost feelings and thwarting our efforts at self-deception. These signs from our inner selves bear wisdom that is expressed unconsciously through the body and mind. When these signs are decoded and understood, the symptoms — no longer needing a voice in the body — may almost magically disappear.

Michael, 32, and Stacey, 29, had been married 5 years and were struggling with a sexual problem. Both of them feared that Michael was no longer attracted to Stacey, since he had not initiated sex in a long time and, during recent attempts, was unable to maintain an erection. Erectile dysfunction medicines were ineffective.

Notably, the couple had recently been through some family crises with Michael’s family of origin when some disturbing events came to light. That situation conceivably could have accounted for Michael’s initial lack of interest, as well as feelings of inhibition about any behavior he might have perceived as aggressive, including sex. However, although these events might have contributed to Michael’s initial retreat from sex and the negative spiral that ensued from Stacey’s reaction, they were not enough to explain the ongoing story between them.

The immediate reason for the couple seeking counseling at this time was Stacey having just revealed to Michael that she had had sex with another man, a one-night stand with a stranger. She described this episode as passionate but meaningless. She viewed her infidelity as a “cry for help” in the relationship and confessed to Michael about it immediately afterwards. She felt ashamed of her behavior and hopeless about being forgiven. She could not even forgive herself, knowing that she hurt Michael and forced his hand in the relationship. Michael, however, did not feel that Stacey was ashamed at all, rather, he saw her as minimizing the whole thing on top of having the presumption to expect “credit” for having been honest about what she did.

“I’m no longer attracted to my wife.”

Michael spoke privately in an individual therapy session about his lack of attraction to his wife, focusing on her weight gain and failure to exercise. Michael continued to insist that he did not feel “chemistry” towards Stacey despite the fact that, as they both agreed, they had enjoyed a mutually satisfying sex life earlier in the relationship and had apparent chemistry then.  Michael maintained that he saw Stacey more as a friend and would be willing to remain in the marriage without sex because he loved her and didn’t want to lose her. Stacey, however, made it clear that she would not stay in a sexless marriage, stating that it made her feel unattractive, rejected, and deprived.

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3 Reasons Why Oral Sex Means So Much To Your Man

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A viewer recently wrote to us asking why is the “esteemed” blow job so significant to men? She said even when she’s willing to give the cookie…he occasionally indicates that he prefers fallatio. Why? In this video we give 3 reasons why a blow job means so much to your man. Enjoy.

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