Fasting With Ayize & Aiyana: Day 1


By Ayize & Aiyana

Hey Family! You may or may not have heard—but we’re fasting! This is a big deal in our house. We’ve never fasted before and we are kinda….scared! Lol. But, we’re excited too. There are specific goals we’re working towards and habits we need to eliminate as well as strengthen to turn the corner on some issues we’ve been dealing with in our lives. Here’s a little snapshot of why we are each fasting and a little video where we discuss our process in more detail We hope you’ll join us at some point and then share how it was for you and what you gained from it. We will be fasting for 4o days and you can do it the entire 40 days with us or for for 1 week or 1 day! It’s entirely up to you. We’re not promoting any one kind of fast. We are:

1. Promoting the Spiritual & Health Benefits of Fasting

2. Sharing our experience with you in an effort to be an inspiration AND hold ourselves accountable (that’s a big reason right there ya’ll because if we don’t hold ourselves out for others to see we often don’t follow through on things.)

3.Attempting to shift ourselves onto a new plane of spiritual, emotional, and physical development. We are trying to grow! Real Talk–We’ve been lazy, a little overwhelmed, and sluggish in more ways than one and while we could point to an array of excuses (-we have a child with special needs who just had surgery, we have a million jobs between the 2 of us, we have four kids, we counsel people day and night, we blah, blah, blah….) THERE ARE NO EXCUSES. You get out of your life what you put into it–bottom line. So, we’re putting in our very best for the next 40 days.

Aiyana is fasting for: DISCIPLINE

-Spiritual and physical discipline

-The elimination of barriers (real and perceived) that keep me from moving forward in my life specifically in our counseling& coaching practice.

-Increased discipline financially so that my husband and I can take ourselves and our family to the next level in what we experience in the money we have coming in, how we manage it, and what we contribute to the world around us.

THE FIRST 3 DAYS: LIQUIDS—- WATER, BROTHS, JUICES, JUICED VEGETABLES & FRUITS, PROTEIN DRINKS

DAYS 4-10: ADD VEGETABLES & FRUIT (RAW OR COOKED)

DAYS 11-17: ADD BEANS/ SOY & VEGETABLE PROTEIN

DAYS 18-31: ADD HEALTHY GRAINS

DAYS 32-36: ADD SEAFOOD

DAYS 37-40: ADD LEAN MEAT

We will also be eliminating AHHHHH!!!!!! TELEVISION during the week for our entire family and only watching on weekends beginning September 3oth.  PRAY FOR US YA’LL!!!! AND PLEASE SHARE ANY TIPS OR WHAT YOU ARE DOING/HAVE DONE! EACH ONE TEACH ONE!

Ayize is fasting for: DISCIPLINE

– dietary discipline (i’ve been putting too much crap in my body and it needs to stop

– emotional discipline (i often act on impulse and I need to control my feelings vs allowing my feelings to control me)

– financial discipline (be mindful, develop a plan, and execute)

*My fast includes sacrificing in such a way that I gradually eliminate different things that I struggle with.

Days 1-40: No carbonated beverages

Days 13 – 40: No “self stimulation”

Days 27 – 40: No processed foods

Some extra info:

Types of Fasting:

Dry fasting, liquid fasting, and partial fasting

There are numerous types of fasting, all of which offer the same many healing benefits. Oftentimes, it seems people develop a preference for one certain type or method, and then feel as if the other methods are inferior.

 

In actuality, all types of fasting have something to offer. Depending on each person’s individual lifestyle, health issues, goals, and body chemistry, different methods of fasting will be appropriate for different people. You can choose a method that is appropriate for you right now. And, since all things change, tomorrow you may choose differently. Nothing could be more natural.

 

There is nothing to lose in attempting a fast. There is no failure, for even if you “fail” to achieve your stated goal, you will have learned and experienced much of value.

 

Use the information here to find, or create, a method of fasting that feels right for you now, that fits your goals and your lifestyle, and that you feel a motivation (not dread) toward.

 

All types of fasting give the same multitude of benefits. You don’t need to do a fast with the word “cleanse” or “detox” in it to rid your body of unwanted toxins. Nor do you need to do a “spiritual” fast in order to benefit spiritually. All types of fasting will lead you on a path to better and higher places.

 

Your job is to pick among the types of fasting, one that appeals to you, and will work within your lifestyle and responsibilities. Keep in mind, the more severe the fast, the poorer your diet has been, and the less preparation you make, the more detox “symptoms” you are likely to have. For some people, these can be uncomfortable enough to force them into bed.

 

My first water fast had me, at the end of the first day, in bed with the worst migraine I’d ever had. I had done zero preparation for this fast and was suffering for it. Life responsibilities were such that I chose to end the fast a little early so I could return to functionality. Within a couple hours of breaking it (with a little piece of fruit), I was at least able to get around.

 

Juice and fruit fasts are more gentle as the detoxing occurs more gradually. I’ve done many fruit fasts and have always felt relatively good — no severe pain or discomfort, just a few aches or a slight headache.

 

Weigh the options and take an honest look at your life and how much you can sacrifice. Doing a fast that will create strong cleansing and detoxing symptoms will require a lot more dedication from you. Do you have someone to take over your responsibilities? How uncomfortable are you willing to be? How much discomfort can you tolerate? Taking pain killers during a fast is definitely NOT a good idea.

 

Do you like the idea of cleansing without a great deal of discomfort? It is absolutely possible, and some professionals feel it is healthier to avoid the extreme symptoms, citing the dangers of releasing too many toxins into the blood stream at one time. So you absolutely can take it slower and more comfortably.

 

A good plan is to start with one-day juice or fruit fasts. Do this once per week until you have few or no detox symptoms, then try a 16-hour or one-day water fast. Slow is always the way to go, whether you’re fasting for weight loss or for detox. Eventually, when you’ve rid your body of years of stored toxins and pollutants, you will be able to enjoy the fasting highs others talk about, without any unpleasant side effects.

Categories of fasting methods

Dry fasting. Also known as Absolute Fast, Black Fast, and Hebrew Fast. The most extreme of the types of fasting, dry fasting has spiritual roots, and consists of foregoing food and water for short periods. While not necessarily recommended, it is interesting to read about.

Liquid fasting. As the name implies, this is fasting on liquids only. The liquid fasting page offers an overview of the variety of liquids used in this type of fasting both today and in the past.

Water fasting is the simplest and perhaps the oldest form of liquid fasting. It delivers the greatest level of therapeutic benefit physically and in a short period of time, as detox occurs more quickly. But a water fast can be more difficult to commit to for the beginner.

 

Juice fasting is extremely popular and offers a modicum of nutritional support in a pure and natural form. Almost any fruit or vegetable can be juiced with the powerful juicers on the market.

 

The Master Cleanse or Lemonade Diet is a relatively new approach, becoming popular in the 1970s. It includes calories in the form of pure maple syrup. Intestinal cleansing is a major part of the methodology.

 

Partial fasting. Also sometimes called selective fasting, partial fasting includes some solid food–anywhere from a very little to a lot of solid food. It’s not the amount of food, but the exclusion or limitation of certain foods that makes it a partial fast. Cleansing diets and mono-diets, like rice fasting, are partial fasts.

Excerpted From AllAboutFasting.com

 

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Viewer Question:

Hey guys,

A little background on me and my husband: Dated for 7 years, married for 1 & 1/2. I am 22 years old and he is 24.My question is, my husband seems very distant and I don’t feel a connection to him anymore. He works two jobs so I understand that he is tired when he gets off of work but when he does have energy he wants to be alone or be with his friends . If he does spend time with me, its simply because he wants to have sex and immediately after will go to sleep or get up and play his video games. When I withhold sex for that reason he says I don’t care about him. We never have any alone time due to his work schedule and our children and when I spoke to him about going on regular dates he got upset. He responded by saying “I will take you out on Sunday and I want you to get all of this clingy crap out of your system.” As if to say that one date was going to be all the quality time I need for the rest of my life?! We argue very frequently and I have gone as far as trying to find a couples counselor in our area and he said he didn’t want to go. I asked him to start going to church with me on a regular basis and he said he isn’t ready to commit to that part of his life which was my only other way of trying to sneak quality time with him. A lot of times I feel like he can be immature because he constantly responds to my suggestions by claiming he is a “Grown man”. He calls me controlling and demanding but the truth is that I am tired and I want attention so I argue with him. I have lied about cheating on him ( I have never stepped out of our relationship) but I said it because it seems that he could care less about me otherwise and I know that is a sensitive spot for him. That is the only way I can convey emotions from him along with telling him I want a divorce. He says that I will destroy our marriage if I keep “Crying wolf” but I don’t know how to get my friend back. There is simply no more emotional connection like we had before. It seems the friendship part of our marriage is gone and never to return. What do I do when directly approaching him makes him angry and distant? Help please! I don’t want to end up another statistic.

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By Aiyana Ma’at

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This may seem like basic knowledge but you’d be surprised at how many of us do not operate in alignment with this basic principle in mind. We may know it but do we really know it?

Listen in as I talk more about this essential principle and ask yourself if there is something you need to acknowledge today if you truly and genuinely want it to change. No judgement. Just be honest. Acknowledge it & release the power of true Change in your life and your relationships today.

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