One of the things that we need in order to have better relationships is EMPATHY. Empathy allows you to be sensitive to another persons experience and show compassion for where they’ve been, who they’ve been, where they are, who they are, and where/who they want to be. I’m willing to bet that if you show more empathy….your relationship will show up better than you ever believed.
Stop Playin’ and Start Pushin’ yall.
There is so much hype these days about booty injections, penis enlargements, and breast augmentation that we began to wonder whether these image “enhancements” will eventually become socially acceptable across the board. If so…when? If not …then where is the line? Blam Fam what are your thoughts? Are booty enhancements necessary? Where should we draw the line when it comes to image “enhancers”?
It’s amazing what can happen when you plant a seed of positivity and water it. In this video we asked our son a simple question, “Where is God?” and we were pleasantly surprised by the answer we received. His answer was indicative of the work and perspective we give to all of our children. His answer served as a glaring reminder that there is power in affirmation, positivity, intention, and ritual. Check out the video and let us know what you think.
VIDEO: Is tension in the air so thick that you can just about touch it? Are you experiencing a raised voice, a whole lot of attitude, and you can’t get a word in no matter how hard you try? How do you handle a partner who only seems to like the sound of their own voice? Listen in as the Ma’at’s weigh in on this issue and leave a comment with your thoughts.
VIDEO: In life and in relationships there are moments when you find yourself at a crossroad… tired of living like you’ve been living, scared as hell and unsure of what your next move should be. This young lady shares the turmoil she’s been experiencing in her marriage and asks what she should do. Confusion is all around it seems…but I once read somewhere that Confusion is the mental and emotional outgrowth of knowing exactly what needs to be done, and having that knowledge clouded by the belief that you are not good enough, smart enough, or strong enough to do it. There is a fear that if you do what needs to be done, you might not get it right or that somebody will get mad at you, etc. The natural response to this self-defeating mental chatter is for the intellectual mind to shut down resulting in what we call confusion. The truth is that when we find ourselves at these crossroads in our lives we need to trust the small still voice within, do what is necessary, and trust and know that you will make it through.
Viewer Question: Hello,
My husband and I have viewed a few of your videos and enjoy your viewpoints or should I say appreciate them. We consider ourselves to be sensible, realistic, honest, sick of the craziness in the world and loving. We’ve been together for 23 years and married for 20. We have two sons, one of which is grown and disabled and now we are dealing with my mom who is experiencing some mental challenges. We have a highschooler, one of us is underemployed (works once or twice a week) due to job loss a couple of years ago and the current care for our oldest son. Because the situation worked out where I have the full time career etc., admittedly I have many demands and sometimes feel like I am juggling a lot. Often in addition to my career and being the current breadwinner, I also teach on the side to meet some of our needs. We don’t get caught up in this so much but naturally hubby wants desperately to find reasonable employment and finish school, yet find security for our son!! LONG STORY THERE!
Financial stress: we have that, mortgage woes: we have that, exhaustion due to meeting the needs of our son and life: got that….and the list goes on. We even get your communication challenge discussions, because sometimes we have that problem too. Hubby depression: been there on and off for the last 8 years, with the last two being horrible. He is not happy with his career life. Church attendance strain due to hubby’s new weird work schedule: problem!!! Me having meltdowns on occasion…PROBLEM!
Now what we manage to do to keep all of this together is have mini dates, dinner nights, concerts, coffee outings, cuddling, talking, car talks, and plenty of laughter in our home. We can call each other on the phone and flirt, text flirt, reminisce about the past and definitely enjoy our boys. There’s a lot of love in our home even in the midst of the stress. What is missing is what I will call our sex life!!! Our sex life is nearly null and void. Are we intimate in other ways? I would say yes. Even if we flirt and kiss cheeks, grope, etc. we don’t get to actual good old sex. On top of that ( no pun intended) my husband has asked me if I have an office relationship, and he’s acted suspicious etc. he recently acted suspicious about one of my white co-workers, that quite honestly I wouldn’t be attracted to if I were down with the swirl!! Just because I mostly enjoy the work I do, does not mean I would destroy a marriage over some nonsense!!!
Yes we heard your talk on cheating too! Hubby agreed with your points by the way. With our busy lives we have challenges but cheating is not on my mind! Hubby reiterates often that he would never accept me going outside of this marriage and he loves me and that he is just going through a difficult time. I understand, even though I am stressed.
So we are under stress and need to get back to a sex life. Our teen son is observant as all get out so it makes it even more of a challenge. I think he’s listening! ANY SUGGESTIONS? We just can’t seem to get it together. I think I count once or twice in the last 8 months, and I’m scared that I don’t even remember. When we do finally have sex, it’s not that great unless its some spontaneous living room moment when the boys are at their grandparents, and now that is as rare as an eclipse. Heck if we weren’t so broke we’d rent a room!!!
Yes we are attracted to each other, and love and adore each other. As an example we had a bit of foreplay last night after going out to dinner without the boys, but the looming drama around my ill mom who I hospitalized this morning and the nosy teen put a damper on that! We try to have mini dates once a week and an evening date at a concert or event once every 4 to 8 weeks! Just to give you an idea, I think I’m fairly young at 41 and hubby is 46….God willing we have too many years to love each other to be at this point.
Please offer us some suggestions.
Thank you for your time! Peace and love.
Dear Ayize and Ayana I am writing to ask your opinion of my situation.I married a man after only 2weeks after meeeting him I know big mistake. Well now after 16 months with him needless to say the marriage has fallen apart essentially. I now have no choice but to stay here or live on the street w my shool age child., as a homeless person. This may be a better choice because
I believe he is sexually involved w his 12 yr old dtr, and he may be trying to influence my grand son towards homosexuality. I know this sounds horrendous but if I there is no shelter available how can I justify leaving getting into a worse situation (ie being homeless and unemployed) thank u. only staying for comfort sake am I wrong, ? I need to stop playing right.
Video: Recently we answered the question of a viewer who felt that her parents failed to provide for her and that their decisions are presently impacting her in her adult life. While many people responded to her question by basically saying “get over it”, there was one thing that stood out to us that we’re choosing to focus on in this video. As parents we need to B Intentional about building a legacy for our children.
Have you ever wondered if the man or woman you married will ever change? We usually ask these questions when we’re frustrated or fed up with the current state of things in our relationship. It’s during these times that we’ve identified our “significant other” as the source of our daily stress. But guess what, they’re not the only source of stress…you bring stress to your relationship too. While you’re frustrated and fed up, your spouse is probably frustrated and fed up too. We don’t believe it has to stay that way because ALL PEOPLE HAVE THE CAPACITY TO CHANGE.
We received a question from a young lady where she was inquiring about the pros and cons of being in relationship with an older man. She’s 24 and he’s 47. Check out this video and let us know what you think. Are you in a relationship with an older man? Do you know people who are? Share your thoughts and let’s help this sista out.
