FREE “How To Avoid Falling For A Jerk or Jerkette” Introductory Class & Information Session

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HOW TO AVOID FALLING FOR A JERK OR JERKETTE

Jerks, losers, men and women who ain’t about nothing…call them whatever you want—we will show you how to avoid them and find “the one” that’s right for you. This class will help you break destructive dating patterns that have kept you from finding the love you deserve.

Learn to:

*Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner.

*Judge character based on compatibility, relationship skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships.

*Resolve your own emotional baggage so you’re ready for a healthy relationship.

Come out on August 28th at 4:30pm and meet your instructors and other singles determined to pick a partner who’s right for them. Experience a sample class, meet other singles, ask questions, and get details about Fall classes & groups.

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A Moment Of Intimacy Knee To Knee…

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VIDEO: It’s good to take time in your relationship to connect in the midst of the busyness of everyday life. We have to B Intentional about making time to “get still & get connected in” with our partner. Sometimes that moment of intimacy where ears and hearts are open is experienced during a back rub, a foot massage, or…as we show you in this video…Knee to Knee. B Intentional about checking with your souse and exploring what’s on each other’s spirits. Take a peek inside of our relationship as we demonstrate this exercise to you and then commit to trying this in your own relationship. It certainly can’t hurt! It’s a good thing….your relationship is thirsty for it.

FREE “Basic Training For Couples” Introductory Class & Information Session

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Spend time with other couples looking for the same thing you want, a great relationship or marriage. Fabulous relationships don’t just happen. They happen because couples learn the skills to make it happen. If you don’t work for your relationship it won’t work for you. Learn why marriage is important, the sweetness of surrender, how to move from “I” to “We”, communication skills, how to manage conflict, hot monogamy, and so much more!

Come out on August 28th at 2pm and meet your instructors and other couples determined to make their relationship last. Experience a sample class, meet other couples, ask questions, and get details about Fall classes & groups.

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How Do I Tell My Man The Sex Sucks?

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VIDEO: Let’s Talk About Sex Baby!!!! It’s a normal and healthy expectation in a marriage to be satisfied sexually. Oftentimes, people are frustrated and disappointed with the poor performance of their partner. So, exactly how do you express your dissatisfaction? Here, we give a young lady some suggestions on how to bring this subject up with her partner so that she can move 1 step closer to ecstasy. Aiyana also gives an example from her relationship with Ayize to his surprise! FUNNY!!! Check it out, learn, and laugh!

I Submit To You

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VIDEO: Do you submit to your spouse in your relationship? Do you make sacrifices that show the relationship is about the both of you vs. just one of you. It’s a beautiful thing when your spouse recognizes and affirms your brilliance, beauty, and potential and then unapologetically says I SUBMIT TO YOU. My wife, Aiyana, told me she submit to me the other day….man, I can’t begin to tell you how that feels….but I’m going to try. Listen in.

Marriage Is For Grown Folks!

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ARTICLE: The very first time my husband and I decided to enroll in Marriage Education classes I was so clear that there were some “issues” he needed to work on and I  was just waiting for his “Aha!” moment to come so he could let go of some of his baggage and stop working my nerves. Yup, that was  my thinking— pretty arrogant, right? Well, as each week passed what became clearer and clearer to me was the fact that I might be a bit “touched” too meaning I had some bags I needed to put down myself.  As a matter of fact I learned that I had a whole lot of baggage but I just didn’t realize it because I had been carrying it most of my life. So, I simply didn’t notice it. It was so much a part of me I couldn’t distinguish what part of me was the “real” me and what part was the “contrived” me, if you will.

You see, I believe we all have our real selves and our contrived selves. Our real selves are our most authentic and true selves. Our contrived selves are the person we’ve created  (subconsciously most of the time) to show to the world and yes even to our spouses. So how might this look in our relationships?  Check out VIDEO commentary: “Are You Keepin It Real?” .

Getting back to my original point…(ya’ll will soon learn—I can jump all around at times!), a real shift occurred in my mind, heart, and soul when I finally began to understand that the marriage God blessed me with, the relationship that I say is most important (after my relationship with The Most High) was not given to me for me to spend most of my time complaining about all of my spouse’s imperfections. Our relationships are not the place for us to let all of our stuff hang out with no regard for how that stuff is weighing us, our partner, and our relationship down. Our relationships are definitely not the place for us to revisit childhood and think that we should get everything our way. One of the biggest challenges I’ve noticed in doing work with couples is the difficulty we have with abandoning our individual agendas and moving towards what’s going to work best for the marriage. Typically, we’re so busy focusing on what our spouse is or isn’t doing that we don’t realize the part we play in perpetuating the problems we want to get rid of!

Marriage is one of the best places to grow and work on YOU if you’re up for it. Marriage is the place where 2 people can come together and pull and push eachother in love to be the best that God created them to be. Marriage is a place where one partner can model for the partner that just doesn’t seem to get it through your actions and not just your words. Marriage is a place where a brand new you can be born if we would just stop looking at our spouse, the next couple, and everywhere else outside of ourselves. Marriage can be a great place to work on SELF. Marriage is for grown folks!

Question: Why do you think people enter into marriage thinking it’s going to be nothing but a romantic cake walk?

(African) Americans Are More Likely Than Ever To Wed Outside Their Racial Group

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VIDEO: Interracial marriages are stirring up the “melting pot” more than ever.  According to Diane Swayer in this June 2010 broadcast this has been happening at a record rate in America. In fact, 1 in 6 new marriages are interracial. What is interesting is that while interracial marriage has been steadily increasing in this country African-Americans have typically been slow to follow—-until now. A notable shift has happened in the black community. 22% of black men married outside of their race in 2008 while 9% of black women married outside of their race the same year. As I listened to this clip….I wasn’t really sure what to make of those numbers. I  wonder why a shift is now occurring in the black community and we apparently are now more open to interracial dating & marriage. I also find it curious that black men seem to be leading this climb in our numbers… Listen in to Diane Sawyer as she paints a picture of where America has been and is now. Food for thought…. As always, I would love to hear your take on this.

~Happy Friday                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Aiyana

Rise Above Your Circumstances

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VIDEO: We’ve heard the saying: “Insanity is DOING the same thing over and over again while expecting different results”. Insanity is also ACCEPTING the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. Here, Ayize & Aiyana answer a young lady who asks if she should stay or leave her man because of his ongoing irresponsibility, disregard for her feelings, and lack of effort to move his family forward. When we recognize the shortcomings in our relationship….what do we do to change them? You can’t solve your current problems with the same thinking that created them. We have to be willing to look at the stone cold reality of our situation and then recognize and accept our role and responsibility in creating and even perpetuating that which we say we don’t want. If you want something different you’ve got to do something different. Bottom Line.

The Bottom Line Episode 8- “Are We There Yet? (…in our relationship)”

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Check out this new episode from our WebSeries: “The Bottom Line” that we do each and every week over at Black And Married With Kids. This week we talk about how a relationship is a continual building process and not something where you ask…”Are we there yet?” When you finish checking this episode out check out some of the other episodes from our WebSeries page by clicking on “The Bottom Line” in the Navigation bar at the top of the page.

The Bottom Line Ep 8 (Are We There Yet??? In Our Relationship) from Tyler New Media on Vimeo.

We, at B Intentional, are very grateful for the opportunity we’ve had to partner with Essence Bloggers, Lamar & Ronnie Tyler of Black And Married With Kids . This WebSeries has gotten some really honest, productive, “keep it real” dialogue going. Every week we provide clear and concise relationship advice that will end with us giving you, “The Bottom Line”. Check out the 8th episode where we talk on the topic: Are we there yet??! And, don’t forget to leave a comment letting us know what you think.

The State Of Black Relationships Movie Trailer

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VIDEO: This is a trailer of the upcoming feature film, The State Of Black Relationships”, that explores the impact of relationships on every day life. For the record the little blip with me saying “dead, attacked, non-existent” are words that I’ve heard used to describe the state of black relationships—they’re not words I (Aiyana) would use! Lol! This film comes from a young filmmaker from Howard University, Jeremy Burkett. We love to see young folks doing something of value and trying to make an impact! Much respect and Kudos to Jeremy and Lempchord Productions for endeavoring to make a meaningful movie. Check it out and leave a comment letting us know what you think.