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Ayize doesn’t know I’m doing this but I just had to…. I was so inspired by a song I heard yesterday on one of my Facebook Friends pages. It just made me think about my relationship with my bestfriend, my boy, my confidante, my lover, my husband—Ayize Ma’at and I knew what I needed to do.
Dear Ayize,
I’m taking the time today to make sure you know…… I want you to be ever so clear about the depth of my love for you and my commitment to you, our marriage, and our family. I need you to know the impact you’ve had on my life. Ayize, the love I have for you is overwhelming and indescribable. I heard a song yesterday by Kindred The Family Soul. It’s called “Stars” and I just “felt” it when I heard it. But, the reason I felt it baby is because of you. It’s because of you that the wounds that my “on again, off again” father left early on in my life haven’t stayed as deep and painful as they used to be. It’s because of you that today I can say that I honestly know what it feels like to trust someone completely. It’s because of your willingness to hold on tight and never let go that I know what commitment is really about in the first place. It’s because of your cool calmness that I have been able to really look at myself and learn new ways of being and communicating. It’s because of your ability to affirm me and allow me to be me that I have the self assured confidence that I have about myself….it’s because of you Ayize. When I begin to doubt myself and feel fear creeping up from behind I now know to deliberately stop whatever I’m doing, pause, and say to myself the words you first said to me “Just be”. It’s because you aren’t ashamed to say you love me, respect me, and see greatness in me that it makes it all the more easy for me to look at myself and find the greatness too. It’s because of your honesty with me…your willingness to call me out but then kiss me on the forehead or the nape of my neck that I have been able to learn how to accept and grow from criticism instead of letting it seep into my spirit and kill my self-esteem. It’s because of your vulnerability and your sharing your secrets with me that I feel and know that I’m important enough and worthy to be trusted. I love traveling life’s journey with you baby. So much of who I am today and have yet to be is because of you. Thank you King. I love you. Today. Tomorrow. Forever.
Here are the lyrics that inspired this letter. Listen to the song below.
Listen to the song below…
“We’ve come so far
Stars look up to you, baby
My heart belongs
Right here next to you, baby”
As always, leave a comment or submit a video response. Anyone out there inspired to do their own video love letter to their sweetie? Send it in and we’ll put it up! Here’s the song that inspired my love letter to my husband…..
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VIDEO: Have a deep belly laugh with these B Intentional Bloopers. We’re switching it up today by taking you behind the scenes of our “Ask The Ma’at’s” video shows. A couple of cuss words slip, a few eyes are rolled, and a few “are you serious?” stares are given. We may not be perfect but we’re perfect for each other! Underneath it all is love. Deeply rooted love for each other….and a passion to share it with YOU. 🙂 Leave a comment or submit a video response with what you think!
VIDEO: Have you ever taken the time to ask yourself “What’s my grade as a wife and as a mother?” Well, on one of our previous posts I (Ayize) gave Aiyana a grade of 92% as a wife. I also mentioned that she hasn’t always been an A- which prompted one of our wonderful faithful viewers to ask “What did Aiyana do to improve her grade as a wife?” Well, you asked so in this video I answer that question and let you know just how Aiyana stepped up her status on the wife chart. Weigh in, leave a comment with what you think or submit a video response. You know we want to hear from you. 🙂
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VIDEO: Here, we answer a viewer who is a single mom of 4 who says she’s built a “small empire all on her own for her children with no family help”. She says she’s provided well for her children and given them opportunities to experience different things. She and her sweetie have had conversations about the financial difference between them and he says he’s ok with it. However, she’s been getting some energy and feedback from him (they’ve been together for a year and a half now) that makes her wonder if he can handle a woman who’s holding it down financially.
At times, women whose men make less than them have the tendency to think their men possess some underlying financial insecurity. In some situations this may be true…but not in all. The difference in the dollar amount between two pay stubs doesn’t automatically dictate a man’s emotional state. If a man does feel bad and stresses…..it might have absolutely nothing to do with his woman and what she brings in. More than likely his feelings are about where he is and where he wants to be not about what his woman is doing/bringing in. These are two totally different things. So, when a man says there’s no problem with his woman making more…take him at his word. If he truly feels otherwise it’s up to him to be honest with himself and work through those feelings. Listen in and give your opinion or submit a video response!
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VIDEO: Ayize is a bit perturbed in this clip because it’s almost 3am and Aiyana keeps messing up on the recording. She thinks it’s funny but I am not amused. She messes up one more time (what you don’t see is the 10 mess ups before that! :-\ ) before we start to flow and get to the issue at hand. Here, we answer a guy who writes in about how frustrated he is with his “closed minded” wife in the bedroom. He wants the freak to come out at night…and she’s not feeling it.
Men and women are wired differently when it comes to sex and there’s no getting around that. But, what does one partner do when the other partner is rigid and reserved in the bedroom and they are the exact opposite? Is it their job to loosen their spouse up so they can feel free to explore sexually or should they just simply respect where their spouse is and accept that this is the way it will be…til death do them part?
If a couple is not in sync sexually do you think they are bound to have major problems that will eventually threaten their bond? Have you experienced a similar issue in your relationship? How did you handle it? Or maybe you’re dealing with a similar scenario right now…weigh in and leave a comment or submit a video responseletting us know what you think.
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VIDEO: Remember when you and your sweetie were dating and you felt like your partner was flawless? You didn’t see or hear any of the “normal”behavior that makes your partner human. Well, in some households that lasts long after the wedding. In other households, not so much. Listen in as we discuss your level of comfort with your partner and whether or not they do things that just cross the line and suggest that they are waaay to comfortable around you. Or maybe it’s you….maybe you’re the one! 🙂 Tune in to see what what we’re talking about. Drop a comment or submit a video response. We want to hear from you!
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VIDEO: Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt used? It may not have begun that way but over time the spark in the relationship fizzles as your partner leans on you so much it’s hard to stand. In this video we address a viewer who feels like her husband isn’t carrying his weight. She says he’s lazy and is seriously questioning the future of their relationship. How have you dealt with a lazy mate? Leave a comment or submit a video response letting us know what you think.
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VIDEO: We have a new Response Video in to the question “Are Threesomes And Marriage A Dangerous Mix?” When this question initially came in and we answered the question for our viewer we were quite curious to see what kind of response we would get—-time came and went and while we received some feedback—it wasn’t nearly what we thought it would be. This is a topic that most folks usually don’t have to think too hard about. They are either open to it or strictly opposed so were a bit surprised by some of the silence. Well, the silence has been broken and there is a courageous voice out there who dares to give her opinion and do it live and on camera. For that, we have much love and respect. Wanna know what she thinks about threesomes and marriage? Click play and find out… As always, leave a comment with your thoughts or submit a video response.
Miss the video that she is responding to? Listen in below…
VIDEO: We were finally asked the question that we knew we would be asked…it seems like this is a hot topic these days. A wife wrote in who’s interested in bringing a 3rd person into her and her husband’s bedroom. But she wants to know if moving into menage a trois land is just too dangerous for marriage. She also asks for ways to bring this up with her husband. Weeell, how do you think we responded??? You’ll never guess so go ahead and click play and then take a minute to leave a comment letting us know what you think about this. Agree..disagree, it really doesn’t matter. There is always more than one way and certainly more than one perspective so share yours and don’t forget to keep it 100% real! 🙂
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VIDEO: Well, we asked for you to get involved, give your opinion, agree with us, challenge us, or just offer up a whole new way of seeing things… Well, this guy has answered in a very strong, opinionated, and for many what will be a very offensive way. We should warn that much of what he says and how he says it may make a sistah wanna reach in the computer and smack him while at the same time there will be those that say Hmmmm….
Miss the original video that he’s responding to? Have a listen below…
VIDEO: This is a message to Black Women everywhere. But, more than this is a Declaration for myself and a Call to Black Women everywhere to take a step back, chill out, calm down, and…shut up…Yeah, I said it. Talk less. Listen more. Stop acting as if the world is conspiring against you! Whoaa! Harsh??? Well, I am black. I am a woman. And, I am loving discovering the softer side of me… Leave a comment or submit a response video letting us know what you think.
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