Can I Give You An Erotic Massage?

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By Nel Lioness

Learning to give erotic and genital massage is one of the magic skills one can develop, because everyone likes to be touched in those most sensitive and intimate body places in that sensual kind of way.

Erotic massage. Massage itself is a very erotic act. Erotic massage is a highly erotic experience. The idea of erotic massage is arousing the senses through the power of a “right” touch. The ultimate purpose of such massage is stimulating a desire for intimacy, in other words, not making your loved one relaxed and sleepy, but making him or her relaxed and excited. The main part of erotic massage is genital massage which is allowing your hands and fingers to work over your partner’s fleshy places.

Erotic massage videos. I really enjoyed watching erotic massage videos: The Joy of Erotic Massage and Erotic Massage: The Touch of Love. For me, it was important that the Joy of Erotic Massage was produced under the guidance of massage masters. This is an instructional video offering easy to follow instructions and demonstrations of erotic massage. Erotic Massage: The Touch of Love is my favorite video, because it is beautiful to watch. They show massage strokes for the entire body and genital massage. Each scene just stirs up the appetite for erotic massage.

Prior to erotic massage. Prior to erotic massage, do not forget to lock all the doors, turn off the phones, make sure the room temperature and your hands are warm, arrange a few bath size towels, light up some candles, and set the atmosphere by scents and mood music or video. Have a short shower to relax and clean each other. To perform a perfect erotic massage, you will need a good quality massage oil. I highly recommend sensual massage kits. Massage kits usually includes delicately scented aromatherapy candles, rose petals, and all-over body massage oils. Oil sets are amazing as well, since most of them contain all-natural massage oils each delivering a delicate scent and special sensation (tingling, warming, heating, cooling). For a comfort, my suggestion is using a liberal amount of oil. A good way to start off an erotic massage is spending time warming up your lover’s entire body by giving a full body massage. So, have your sweetheart gloriously naked and let your hands express your tenderness.

Female and male genital massage. The idea of massaging him is that you should slow down and change the technique just before his explosion becomes inevitable. The idea of massaging her is continuous massaging through one orgasm into the next. Here are suggested genital massage strokes.

Massaging her:

>stroking the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles
>squeezing the clit between the thumb and index fingers
>squeezing the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and sliding up and down the entire length of each lip
>massaging the area around the clitoral hood using the pads of two fingers
>looking into each other’s eyes

Massaging him:

>gentle squeezing his manhood at the base with your hand
>caressing between the testicles and anus
>with the penis resting on his belly, gliding up and down the shaft
>moving your hand on his penis head as you’re trying to open an oiled door knob
>letting his penis “penetrate” into your fist, and before the head of his penis pops out of one hand, bring the other one up for the next penetration
>using your open palm to swirl around the head
>making a ring with your thumb and forefinger, and closing the ring when you get to the pee hole

The skin is the largest sense organ of our body, that’s why we do like to be touched in that sensual kind of way for physical and psychological benefits. Erotic touch brings us to the heights of emotional and sexual satisfaction. So, it cannot be denied – the power of touch IS.

Foot Fetish: Why Some Men Find Boots And Shoes So Erotic

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By Shayla Moore While not everyone likes feet, some men find them highly erotic to touch, lick, stroke, and look at. Is there something wrong with them?

Absolutely not.

The treasured foot

The foot represents another erogenous zone for the foot fetishist. Just like the breast or the penis, the foot is a piece of art on the body. It has curves and delicate zones. It can respond to hard and soft caresses, while also remaining hidden much of the time.

A foot fetishist noticed the curve of the ankle into the heel, the arch of the foot as it sits in a high heel, and the perfect alignment of toenails.  And he or she wants to worship those areas like any other erotic zone.

Just like you would see a bra or a corset on a womans body, foot worshippers like to see feet with open toes and lots of straps. Platforms make the feet just out of reach, and all the more alluring.

Pedicures and perfumed feet are just other ways to make a foot fetishist weak in the knees.But some foot fetishists like the natural smells and scents of the foot. And that is as erotic to them as the musky scents of sex from the genitals.

Symbolic feet

And its not just the physical appearance that gets many foot fetishists going. Feet also have the subtle reference to servitude and submission. The appearance of a high heel can send the fetishist into erotic fury because of the implications of having to submit to someone elses will and desire.

The clacking of heels always used to tell you when the teacher was coming back to the room. With a blindfold on, the heels tell the tale of a mistress coming back to her slave.

Feet in high heels imply power over the man. A woman who wears platform boots is in control of the mans desires because he wants to touch the feet so badly. But she keeps them hidden until the man submits to her whims.

Play time

The feet can be caressed and fondled just as any other erogenous zone. Some men like to tickle and stimulate the feet with feathers to see the way they move and twist. Because the area is so sensitive, the person who is attached to the feet may find that what once caused laughter now caused desire.

A lot of men who like feet will suck on the toes individually in order to simulate oral sex. This can be highly erotic for the recipient as the sensitive areas between the feet can give both pleasure and also pain. Imagine trying hard not to laugh while someone licks and sucks on your toes, but at the same time, you feel the stirrings of an erotic lust.

It can be amazing

Some foot fetishists like to incorporate the foot into intercourse. By using the toes or the point of a shoe to gently stimulate the penis and the scrotum, the fetishists can feel intense feelings of pleasure.

Some foot lovers can only experience orgasms when the foot is utilized in lovemaking.

And some guys even find the shoes themselves erotic and stimulating. They see erotic zones in each of the parts of the shoe, rather than the actual materials. The heel is erotic, the sole is erotic, and the point of the toe is erotic.

Decorations

To make the feet even more appealing, high heels are the most often requested shoe. Second to that is the platform heel that created a high arch in the foot and a sleeker line in the leg. And just like any other tease, the covering of the foot makes the man hungry to see what is underneath.

You might also want to dress up the lower leg with stockings or socks that highlight the object of his desire.

Foot fetishism is completely normal and healthy, so theres no need to worry. Dress up your feet today if your man wants to celebrate the ten little toes.

And do not forget the heels.

Shayla Moore is a writer for Oasislingerie.com. She has many interesting topics and ideas for all to read about.

It’s Time To Go To The Next Level. Online Couples & Singles Classes Have Arrived.

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VIDEO: So many of you have asked that we bring what we do online and the time has finally come!!!! Needless to say we are so excited about doing live interactive classes with singles and couples from all over the country at the click of a mouse. Technology is the bomb diggity (ok, corny I know…smile) and we are stretching ourselves, pulling all nighters, and getting it in like never before so we can create the kind of online class experience that will leave you so much stronger, better, and wiser then when you first step foot into our virtual classroom. We are ready for you! Are you ready to grow and learn? Class is in session!

***ONLINE REGISTRATION GOES LIVE TODAY AT 3:00PM***

FOR MORE  DETAILS ABOUT THE CLASSES PLEASE CLICK HERE!

The NEW Marriage Negotiations

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VIDEO: Please help us out and share this with any and everybody you know! This is our premier project for 2011 and we are so excited about all the wonderful people we’re going to meet and relationships that are going to be elevated. This is Real talk about real relationships going to the next level. There are positive examples of black love in the African American community and blackloveandmarriage.com is diligently working to bring healing and wholeness to love. Relationships require negotiation, compromise and flat out work. The online relationship classes we have starting in April will definitely show you how to find love and strengthen the love that you have. Registration begins March 9th. Classes begin April 18th.

For general information on the classes CLICK HERE.

Tips For Great Sex When Dealing With Impotence

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VIDEO RESPONSE: One of our wonderful, wise, and faithful viewers submitted a video response to a video we did about to a woman who had not sex with her husband in 18 months. The reason? Impotence after surviving prostate cancer. She shares some great tips on how to achieve greater sexual intimacy when dealing with this challenging issue.

Are Threesomes And Marriage A Dangerous Mix?

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VIDEO: It seems like this is a hot topic these days. A wife wrote in who’s interested in bringing a 3rd person into her and her husband’s bedroom. But she wants to know if moving into menage a trois land is just too dangerous for marriage. She also asks for ways to bring this up with her husband. Weeell, how do you think we responded??? You’ll never guess so go ahead and click play and then take a minute to leave a comment letting us know what you think about this. Agree…disagree, it really doesn’t matter. There is always more than one way and certainly more than one perspective so share yours and don’t forget to keep it 100% real! 🙂

Will The Attack On Planned Parenthood Hurt African Americans The Most?

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No matter where you fall as it relates to abortion, young people and access to sexual health, or introducing contraception to young folks you have to know that there will be serious consequences for decreasing funding for Planned Parenthood’s work. The bottom line is that less money for Planned Parenthood will mean less access for the underserved and often forgotten….those usually without healthcare or a primary physician. What this impact could look like…..only time will tell. Check out what Lori Adelman from The Grio.com thinks about it below and then weigh in with your thoughts.

In Ms. Williams’* health class at a South Central Los Angeles high school, the students were full of questions.

“Where can I get checked out if I don’t have a lot of money?”

“Do those birth control pills my sister bought off the street corner really work?”

“Should I be nervous about the quality of care I’ll receive at the local clinic?”

Ms. Williams’ students reflect the mindset and situation of many Planned Parenthood clients: They understand the importance of “getting checked out”, but are often living in poverty, uninsured, or under-informed about where to obtain health services. And many of them are women and men of color. In 2009, 15 percent of Planned Parenthood clients were black. That’s more than 400,000 people. The number of black patients has been steadily increasing in recent years, with the number of black men visiting Planned Parenthood clinics increasing by a whopping 225 percent over the past 9 years.

Such are the inadvertent casualties of last Friday’s Republican-led attack on Planned Parenthood. In a measure known as the Pence Amendment (named for its sponsor congressman Mike Pence), the organization would be prohibited from receiving federal funds for any of its activities. The Pence Amendment was approved 240-185.

If the resolution is allowed to go into law as is, the nation’s most trusted name in sexual and reproductive health care will lose government support to provide family planning, contraception, lifesaving cancer screenings, annual medical exams, and testing and treatment for sexually transmitted infections to millions of Americans.

Such a budget cut would trickle down to Planned Parenthood’s more than 820 local health centers nationwide and have devastating consequences for people like Ms. Williams’ students, who have few health care options, are predominantly black, and rely on the services of local clinics for access to high-quality and low-cost sexual and reproductive care.

As Ms. Williams sees it, the government is moving in the wrong direction by voting to defund the beloved health care organization. “We don’t need the government to be taking away funding from these clinics; if anything we need to be strengthening and increasing their efforts,” she stated. “Especially in the black community, we need more information and services because there is so much unmet need.”

The “unmet need” Williams refers to is real. According to a recent Hart Research survey, 54 percent of African-American women ages 18-34 have experienced difficulty purchasing birth control and using it consistently because it was too expensive. And African-American women have almost three times the unintended pregnancy rate of white women.

It’s obvious that our community can’t afford to have our services cut back now.

B Intentional Family, weigh in on this. Do you think cutting back Planned Parenthood’s funding will cut off critical healthcare options for black folks the most and do you think that it’s a sacrifice that needs to be made or will it make the issues worse?


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Sex Addiction: Is It Real Or Just An Excuse For Irresponsible & Reckless Behavior?

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“Sex addiction isn’t really about sex. Sex addicts realize that they’re using sex to numb out emotions, escape, feel powerful, loved, wanted, etc. It’s like how alochololics use booze to cope.

If you’ve never experienced it, you’re probably not going to understand.

If you don’t understand, you probably don’t want to believe it exists.

There’s a difference between having a high sex drive and being a sex addict. Look it up.”

“Society should get an award for being the best at labeling things. “addiction?” come on…addiction? this is just excessive brainstorming on how to diagnose MORE people with things to make MORE money. sure being addicted to the feeling you get during sex is very likely, but you should not be administered to rehabilitation for it. if “addiction” is a negative word then you shouldnt be labeled that either. and the word is mostly used to connect a problem with something. please try and send me to rehab being diagnosed with “addiction” to life, how would they treat me, with a gun? lol.”

“People judge what they can’t understand. How is it that we can understand “food addiction” or “shopping addiction” and the things that are happening emotionally and psychologically with people who have those addictions but with sex–where you receive one of the most powerful emotional and physiological feelings known to mankind– an ORGASM–you just can’t be addicted? Give me a break.”

“No woman can ever understand what it’s like to be a man. All men are sex addicts, or they aren’t healthy. Whether you control these animalistic compulsions is certainly going to affect how well adjusted you are to modern society, but claiming you have a problem with addiction is really just a cop-out for not being a stronger person. Most men relieve themselves daily, whether it’s manual or with a partner, and it’s been that way for centuries. One could argue that a strong sex drive means increased likelihood you’ll continue your bloodline. If a man has little or no drive, then he is not as likely to pass his genetic encoding on.”

These are some random comments about sex addiction we picked up from across the web. These comments reflect the great divide there is when it comes to how our society thinks about, approaches, and deals with sex addiction. Just last week they talked about sex addiction on The Today Show. Listen in below and then, as always, let us know what you think. Is sex addiction real or a just a lame excuse?

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Is Sex After Marriage Boring Or Do You Just Not Know How To Bring Out The Freak???

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What do you get when you have 4 brothers sitting around talking about sex after marriage? Before you answer that…what if one of the brothers is a relationship expert and one is a self-professed pimp? Listen in to this interesting conversation where 4 men go back and forth on how stale they feel sex after marriage is. What’s your take? All I’ll say is this: My name is Aiyana and it still gets hot & steamy in my bedroom (after 16 years of being together and 9 years of marriage)!!! And you better believe my husband knows how to get me ready… 😉 Listen in and let us know what you think.

Prostate Cancer: “I Haven’t Had Sex With My Husband In 18 Months.”

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A key component to any healthy relationship is intimacy. How do you maintain intimacy in a relationship when a health issue is present? In this episode we help a woman who hasn’t had sex with her husband since he was diagnosed with prostate cancer and that was 18 months ago! Even bigger than the sex is the lack of intimacy demonstrated in their relationship….we must remember sex and intimacy are two different things (although many times for men sex=intimacy. what does one do in a sensitive space such as this. You want to be thee for your spouse and support them in everything they are going through. At the same time it is just as critical that your needs aren’t left suffering and unmet. Listen in as we give this young wife some advice.