VIDEO: What comes up for you when think about college? Dorm life, new friends, term papers, parties, & commitment? A young man writes in sharing that he is in love and he and his sweetheart are about to go to separate colleges. He wants to know whether they should try to make a long distance relationship work or…or should they temporarily postpone their relationship until after graduation. We weigh in…but what do you think?
Learn to:
*Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner.
*Judge character based on compatibility, relationship skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships.
*Resolve your own emotional baggage so you’re ready for a healthy relationship.
Come out on August 28th at 4:30pm and meet your instructors and other singles determined to pick a partner who’s right for them. Experience a sample class, meet other singles, ask questions, and get details about Fall classes & groups.
We are very excited to announce our newest partnership with DMVBlacksingles.com and their sister site NYCBlacksingles.com. We have teamed up with the fabulous creator of this much needed network to provide dating advice & tips each and every month! It is their mission to make dating a little easier for the professional, time crunched, mature, and working black crowd. This site is great for social networking and finding a “worthwhile” date. So, when you get a moment check them out. As a matter of fact you can start by checking out our newest contribution here.
VIDEO: You never really know a person until you witness them handling hardship. If you are thinking about taking your relationship to the next level pay close attention to how your partner deals with difficulty, disagreements, and rejection. How they cope in moments of mild or significant conflict will help you decide whether this person is the one you truly want to spend your life with. Most folks we know try to avoid pain & conflict at all costs. But, we believe conflict is a normal and natural thing. Yes, we will even go as far as to say it’s a GOOD thing. Does it feel good? No. Is it necessary? Yes. If we never experience the strain and stress of pain and conflict with the one we say we love then we never get a chance to truly experience the remarkable healing power of forgiveness, repair, and emotional and spiritual maturation with another person. I once read somewhere that if you are comfortable you are not growing. While most of us would love to stay in La La land with our sweethearts 24/7 that is just not possible and we would dare to say it just isn’t healthy either. We believe one of the greatest gifts of our most sacred relationship is its ability to help “grow us up” mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We are not supposed to stay the same. We are all supposed to evolve and the one we love more than anything yet gets on our last nerve at the same time is the perfect one to help us do it.! At the end of the day it’s really OK to “go through” before you say I DO.
VIDEO: “I am sick and tired of Black men cat calling, asking if they can walk with me, calling me shorty and disrespecting me in the street. Black men shut your pie holes before I pull your du-rag over your eyes! Other sistas have complained about this. Black men, stop acting like baboons in the street and leave Black women alone!”
These are the words of the author of this video…pretty disturbing. Disturbing on many levels. Please be advised that the video that follows is adult material, contains profanity, and is raw and to the point. On one hand we are disturbed by some of the words the author uses to describe black men and this particular behavior. On the other hand there is truth that exists in the author’s words. I (Aiyana) have experienced situations similar to this back in the day but it would be a stretch to say that the brothas trying to holler at me were men…they were clearly boys. Take a look and tell us what you think….
HOW TO AVOID FALLING FOR A JERK OR JERKETTELearn to:
*Ask the right questions to inspire meaningful, revealing conversations with your partner.
*Judge character based on compatibility, relationship skills, friends, and patterns from family and previous relationships.
*Resolve your own emotional baggage so you’re ready for a healthy relationship.
Come out on August 28th at 4:30pm and meet your instructors and other singles determined to pick a partner who’s right for them. Experience a sample class, meet other singles, ask questions, and get details about Fall classes & groups.
VIDEO: There are several core areas in a relationship that require tending to in order to increase the probability of success. If you toss long distance into the equation then some unique challenges will definitely arise. Can a long distance relationship work? Yes…we did it. Was it difficult? YES, BUT WORTH IT. Listen in for 3 quick tips on managing and caring for a long distance relationship.
VIDEO: This one is from the Sistas to the Daughters….
“With heartfelt and intimate moments shared by ten phenomenal women from the southside of Chicago, their riveting and untold story will be shared… Sister, daughter, grandmother, aunt, or girlfriend, there is something I need to tell you about my life, and I hope my story will help you to heal…”
Filmmakers like Janks Morton and Lamar & Ronnie Tyler are not waiting for anyone to greenlight anything. They are taking control of our images and the conversations and charting new and unseen territory. We must support our own! Sisters pencil it in. Brothers tell the women in your lives. On August 5th at 8:00pm The Red Carpet Film Event “We Need To Talk: A Message To Our Daughters” will premiere at the Historic Avalon Theatre in Washington, D.C. For event details and tickets click here.
VIDEO: Interracial marriages are stirring up the “melting pot” more than ever. According to Diane Swayer in this June 2010 broadcast this has been happening at a record rate in America. In fact, 1 in 6 new marriages are interracial. What is interesting is that while interracial marriage has been steadily increasing in this country African-Americans have typically been slow to follow—-until now. A notable shift has happened in the black community. 22% of black men married outside of their race in 2008 while 9% of black women married outside of their race the same year. As I listened to this clip….I wasn’t really sure what to make of those numbers. I wonder why a shift is now occurring in the black community and we apparently are now more open to interracial dating & marriage. I also find it curious that black men seem to be leading this climb in our numbers… Listen in to Diane Sawyer as she paints a picture of where America has been and is now. Food for thought…. As always, I would love to hear your take on this.
~Happy Friday Aiyana
VIDEO: In this video we answer a letter from a young lady who is in love and is sure the feeling is mutual. However, they have been dating for 3 1/2 years. She wants to know “How long is too long to wait for the engagement ring?” Here, Ayize and Aiyana talk about how important it is to move beyond being preoccupied with the length of time you’ve been dating and be just as concerned with what’s going on in your relationship. Are you connecting, moving, and growing both individually and together? At the same time, let’s not get it twisted….there is a reasonable time frame in which we feel a healthy couple should be upgraded from simply boyfriend/girlfriend to Fabulous Husband & Wife!
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