5 Lessons I’ve Learned From Being DUMPED.

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By Mark Jordan

Like most men, I’ve been dumped. I’ll even admit I’ve been dumped more than once too! It was never easy and I certainly didn’t like it, but I will say that I have matured from the experience and there are a few things I have learned from the women who’ve dumped me. Below are some of the things I have learned.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who’ve Dumped Me #1

You have got to give a woman her personal space. You do not want to invade a woman’s life so much that you are not giving her personal space. Trust is one of the key components in a good relationship and it is what women want. Yes, women like to cuddle, hold hands and hug and they may seem to always be around, but they need personal space also. If you have ever been cheated on you probably feel you need to know at all times where your girlfriend is and who she is with. But if you get into her personal space too much she is going to get the impression that you don’t trust her much. You may end up breaking up because of this.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who’ve Dumped Me #2

It takes two people to make a relationship. Both people in the relationship contribute problems and happiness to the relationship. You can blame the other person all that you want and it is hard not too if you are suffering pain from a breakup. But the breakup was partially caused by you as one-half of the couple. Figure out what went wrong so that the next time you have a relationship it doesn’t happen again.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who’ve Dumped Me #3

Not all relationships are meant to be. You may have been planning a future with your girlfriend in the way of a wedding, kids, vacations and more and then suddenly she broke all of it off. You have to learn that not all relationships were meant to be and it is a blessing that it was ended before you got in too deep and then found out too late that you weren’t in a good relationship.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who’ve Dumped Me #4

You’ll get stronger as time goes by. The philosopher Nietzsche was the one who said whatever doesn’t kill me will make me stronger. That same thing will happen to you when dealing with a breakup from your girlfriend. The pain will be intense at first but will lessen with time. Usually you will emerge a stronger person with more maturity.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who’ve Dumped Me #5

It is you who has to make good things happen. While you can’t control every little thing that happens to you, you can usually control how you react to those things. It is you, and not someone else, who has to control your future and be positive about it. You have to pick yourself up and go back out to meet new and exciting women. You can most likely another girlfriend pretty easily if you remain positive.

Try to have some fun in your life and follow some of the advice I’ve shared in this article on things I’ve learned from women who’ve dumped me and you will find that you are a stronger man now than you were before you were dumped.

Mark D. Jordan is a writer and researcher from Pennsylvania. Much more information about being dumped and getting an ex back can be read at Getting Girlfriend Back. Learning how to survive breakups is at Survive Breakups

Is He The One? Your 6 Point Quality Assurance Checklist

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By Lucy OBrien

Still searching for dating success? If you’re in a new relationship and you’re not sure where it’s headed, perhaps you should try putting the man in your life through some quality assurance tests to see whether he’s the one for you. Find out if your relationship has a chance of becoming a successful relationship by seeing how many of these tests it passes.

Maturity Check

Is your man mature enough to be in a long term successful relationship? Indicators of maturity include generosity, affection and the way he communicates with you when you have issues with him or the relationship. Look out for the way he treats you and other people. If he puts you down or gets upset when you don’t meet his every need, or if he disappears from your relationship every time there is a problem, then he’s probably not mature enough to stand the test of time. If he gets jealous or aggressive or has outbursts of other negative emotions, you should think very hard about whether he would make a suitable partner. Your choice of partner is going to affect your future happiness. To ensure your dating success, choose wisely and choose a man who is mature enough for a great relationship.

Compatibility Check

Compatibility is one of the most important factors in dating and relationship success. Don’t get carried away by the chemistry you feel, make sure the two of you are compatible before getting attached to him. Do you have interests in common and activities that you can do together? Do you laugh together and get on well? Are you good friends? Can you talk to him easily and does he open up to you? All these qualities indicate compatibility in the relationship.

Effort Indicators

If he’s not prepared to make an effort for you then he’s not the one for you. Period. Don’t try harder thinking that if you give more he will love you for it. If he’s not in touch regularly, if he’s not taking you out places, if he’s not interested in your company then he’s “just not that into you”.

Withdrawal Test

Does he pursue you when you withdraw? What happens if you pull back a bit? What happens if you don’t text or call him back? Does he disappear off the face of the planet? Does he shout or moan that he hasn’t heard from you and give you a hard time? Or does he come after you… wanting your company… wanting your attention… fascinated by why he hasn’t heard from you and what you’ve been up to in the last couple of days? A mature man who is interested in you won’t want you to get too far away.

Acceptance Testing

As this is quality assurance then we should talk about acceptance testing. Can you accept him for whom he is or would you like to change him? A successful relationship is one in which both partners can be themselves. If you are hoping that he will somehow change then perhaps your relationship is not as solid as you would like. If you want to change him, then change him for someone else!

Commitment Check

Is he making it obvious that he wants to spend time with you? Is he allowing you to meet his family and friends? Does he tell you he loves you regularly? Does he buy you gifts either spontaneously or on special occasions? It’s generally obvious when a man is crazy about you. Or, are you trying to convince him that he should give more or want more from your relationship? If it’s the latter then it won’t work. Words won’t persuade him to commit. Work on building the chemistry if you want commitment, or let him go.

It’s amazing how many women meet a man, feel attracted, and then allow themselves to be sucked into a relationship with him, without checking out whether he would make a good partner first. If your relationship doesn’t feel quite right, then use these tests to determine where the problems lie. But remember that you can’t change him unless he wants to change. Don’t forget that dating success is just as much about getting rid of the wrong ones as meeting Mr Right. If it’s not working out perhaps it’s time to let him go so you can continue your search for a successful relationship.

What are the secrets to captivating your man and having him love and cherish you? How do you get him to listen to you, connect to you and get close to you? What makes a man want to get married, and how can you take advantage of his natural wish to please you so that he will not be able to do enough for you? Visit makemyrelationshipfabulous.info to find out all this and more. 

Want An Unbreakable Relationship? Let Go Of The Past…

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By Team BLAM

Studies show that people who enjoy healthy relationships have more happiness and less stress. We also know that the the way in which you think, feel, and believe in your adult relationships is a direct result of your past relationships and early experiences, going all the way back to childhood.

Many of us carry into our adult relationships the dysfunctional behaviors we witnessed and learned as children. If your parents separated or divorced, or if one parent abandoned the family (physically or emotionally), you might have adopted the same behavior patterns that prompted these events.

If your relationships in the past were chaotic or troubled, you can start now to examine and undo unconscious attitudes and behaviors that might be contributing to an unsatisfying personal life. By understanding how early circumstances have had an impact on your life, you can begin to overcome negative habits and thinking that can affect your relationships now and in the future.

Look, it won’t be the easiest thing in the world to do. But, anything worth enjoying and having is worth working to have and create. Building a healthy relationship is kind of like building a house. First, we must clear the land by doing away with the dysfunctional behaviors (i.e., anything that serves to keep you bound, down, and ignorant instead of enlightened, free, and uplifted). This is what usually separated the “winners” from the “losers” because this is where the hard work comes in. Most people ain’t trying to do all that….we’d rather stay comfortable—unhappy but comfortable. SMH.  But, for the folks who are serious about finding true happiness within themselves and in their relationship; here’s where what you put in really counts. It’s hard and hugely rewarding work that often requires assistance from others. Then we must lay a foundation of willingness to communicate, care, and commit. Finally, we construct one story of the house at a time. We start with casual contact, move to friendship, then companionship, and ultimately, (if appropriate) we top the structure with romantic love and committed love.

Skip any step in building a house and the structure might be unsafe and collapse. The same is true for building relationships. If you omit an essential step, you put the relationship in jeopardy. At first the relationship can seem sound, but as time passes, flaws begin to show and the framework starts to sag. When a storm comes along, the relationship might break apart.

Overcoming your fears and dealing with your past allows you to move forward awake and aware. It allows you to intentionally create the relationship of your dreams. So, BEGIN. START. MOVE. Stop Playing. Start Pushing.

Should I Lose Weight For Him?

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VIDEO: I have been talking to a guy for about a year and everything has been going wonderful. We are both praying Christians and have found eachother to be perfect examples of the kind of spouse that we desire. However, only recently, although he met me as an overweight person, he has mentioned how my weight might be an issue for us to continue to proceed deeper into our relationship. Our feelings toward eachother have become more intense and we have gotten to a point where we want to make things official. He says that he loves me so much and believes I would be an amazing wife and an amazing mother. However, he finds that he is feeling attracted to women who are much slimmer than I am and he doesnt want to “be in looking out” (his words). He said that if I feel comfortable the way that I am, he doesn’t want to make me feel like he is trying to change me but if I also would like to do something about my weight, he would be there to support me to reach that goal and that it would benefit both of us. He said that although he is very much attracted to me (character wise, personality wise, and in that I am a beautiful woman) he feels that he does not feel that sexual attraction to me, which is definitely a crucial part of a marriage, especially since men are very visual. My question is: is this something I should be offended by? Should I accept that and try to change to help him become sexually attracted to me or should I feel that he should want me the way that I am and that his demands mean that it’s not true love? These questions keep rolling through my mind. I think he is exactly what I have asked the Lord for in a man but now I am feeling that he would be settling because most of what he wants is there not all. Also, I would not want to be in a marriage knowing that my husband is not completely in love with me and that another woman is igniting that sexual passion in him. What should I do? God bless you. Thanks for your reply.

Is He A Man Worth Keeping?

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By Ruth Purple

Finding a man worth keeping these days is like going fishing in Citarum River, the word’s most polluted river- instead of finding a good catch, you find yourself surrounded with crap! To avoid wasting your time with crappy men, here are some guidelines to consider if the guy is a keeper or not.

• He speaks his mind. A guy who is vocal about his opinions can be annoying sometimes, but believe me, it is better than a guy who keeps everything to himself. Being with a man who is expressive about his opinions, complains, and emotions makes a relationship meaningful and a whole lot easier to manage.

• He knows how to fight right. Arguments and conflicts in the relationship are unavoidable, but when you fight, make sure that you know how to make these fights work for your relationship. A man worth keeping is a man who knows how to fight right- to argue truthfully and respectfully.

• He is not into computer. Unless he works as an internet marketer or a computer programmer, a guy worth keeping is a guy who would rather sit in front of the TV and enjoy a game, or have a few drinks and talk with the boys, rather than sit in the front of the computer, commenting on each of his friend’s post in his Facebook account, or sneak into the latest porn sites or worst- sign- up in Ashley Madison.

• He is not afraid to shed a tear. A man worth keeping cries, but he is not a crier. There are certain situations that a man needs to cry- a death or a birth of a child, a hand or foot caught in a bear trap, heroic acts, traumatic events, “Star Spangled Banner” + wounded soldier and the song “Cat’s in the Cradle.”

• He has a health and life insurance. A guy who considers the unknown is worth keeping. He makes sure that whatever happens, the people around him are secure.

• He has money stashed away for emergency. A man worth keeping is reliable. He makes sure, that your future with him will not be worthy to be in the episode of, “Survivor”.

• He has ambition and focus. Life can be a one big distraction, but a man worth keeping knows what he wants and is not shaken by life’s surprises. In addition, a guy who can keep his focus is not likely to cheat or stray away.

• He has a sense of humour. If he knows how to laugh at himself and not take life seriously, then he is worth keeping.

• He goes through a general check- up at least twice a year. A man worth keeping doesn’t take his health for granted, he is aware of the direct line between his health and the people he cares about.

• He has a good relationship with his mom, but is not a momma’s boy. A man worth keeping knows how to understand and respect women, and one of the signs of such man is his relationship with his mother.

• He’s seen “New Moon” with you. That movie was… terrible. But if he’s willing to watch it with you and not talk in his phone or text the whole movie, he’s worth keeping. But if he has seen it several times… he may be a crier or gay.

• He can sleep well at night. Sleep is one of the most important things in life. If he can sleep well at night, it tells that he has peace of mind and increases your chances of having a regular pleasant snooze.

You can read more from Ruth Purple at www.relazine.com

Is This The Right Relationship For Me?

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By Danielle B. Grossman, MFT

We make ourselves crazy trying to figure it out. We look for signs and ask psychics. We go over it again and again in conversations with ourselves and with our friends: “Is this the right relationship for me?”

Or we avoid thinking about it at all, and just go along with the other person’s agenda, only to find ourselves feeling stuck and dissatisfied in relationships that don’t fit us, go on too long, or end badly.

I wish I had a magic crystal ball to guide you, but I don’t.

Decisions about continuing or ending a relationship are not easy. There are extremely complicating factors in our relationships, such as love, attraction, children, money and extended family.

Four questions, however, can help guide you. Ask yourself:

1. Most of the time, do I feel stronger or weaker when I think about my partner?

 

Check out your physical, mental and emotional energy, your mental energy. Is this person mostly strengthening you, or mostly depleting you?

2. Most of the time, do I feel stronger or weaker when I share time and space with my partner?

How do you feel when you hear your partner walk up the steps to your home? How do you feel when you are sitting in the car together? How do you feel when you are in a group of people? Again, check out your overall energy level. Do you feel stronger, or depleted?

3. Overall, does the energy and time that I invest in the relationship make it stronger and more stable?

Often we can work on our relationships to try to shift them into being more strengthening and less depleting. The question is, does that work seem to actually pay off?

4. Given the reality of this relationship, pros and cons, am I done searching for something better?

You never really know if there is something better — there’s always a chance that there is. So, the question is, are you done looking? Some people are done in their 20s; some are never done. Just try to be honest with yourself and your partner.

And try to be patient as you try to figure it all out. No one gave you a magic crystal ball, either.

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9 IMPORTANT Questions To Ask Yourself BEFORE You Get Married

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By Emily Kensington

It’s time to get introspective! By taking the time to honestly assess your feelings and your motivations, you will be able to ascertain your degree of readiness for marriage.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1.  What do I love about my partner?

As a psychotherapist specializing in couples and marital therapy, one of the first things I ask is “What do you love about one another?” If the answers indicate little depth, serious trouble is indicated. Replies such “because she’s pretty” or “he’s fun” are troubling signs, indicating surface attraction. Once, to my horror, a client replied “Because we like the same kind of pizza.” Needless to say, this is not a foundation for a long lasting relationship!

Happily, after considerable introspection, many couples are able to identify their attraction to positive partner qualities such as compassion, intelligence, and an ability and willingness to communicate effectively. After all, if you can’t talk openly with your partner, the relationship is not solid. Perhaps more important, self-aware couples are able to recognize areas for potential growth, and develop a plan to jointly work on their relationship.

Some, especially new, couples may view such questioning as cynically casting doubt upon their whirlwind romance. Nonetheless this type of critical self-reflection is vital in determining ultimate compatibility. Indeed, it doesn’t take a relationship advice guru to realized that a little work now could save a lot of heartache later.

2.  Why am I asking this person to marry me?

For example, are you proposing because your partner is pregnant? If that’s your primary reason for getting hitched, I suggest you reconsider, because studies show that you will grow to resent your partner and child.

3.  Can we work through problems?

If you’ve been with your partner for a long period of time, you have likely experienced some rough patches. Take a look at those patches to determine how you dealt with them as a couple, and note what you did well or identify areas for improvement. Do you feel comfortable discussing any problem with your partner?

4.  Can we communicate?

Talking is not necessarily the same as communicating. You need to be able to talk to this person in your life in a constructive way. If you have already argued, you already know if this is possible. We don’t always get along with the people we love, but we should be willing to get along with them most of the time and try to love them when we are feeling negative about them. If you felt like you came away from the situation understanding the other person better, you are able to communicate.

Important Tip:

If you have ever walked away from an argument feeling degraded or unsatisfied, you might want to work on your couples communication skills a bit more.

5.  What are my conceptions of marriage?

Everyone has a different pre-conceived conception of what marriage means; some of us are influenced by family experiences, some of us by mass media depictions of marriage, some focus on the magical wedding day and think everything else will fall into place, while others dream of children and building long-term memories. What are yours? Are they at least similar to your partners? I hope so!

6.  Do we share the same values?

While this doesn’t necessarily include religious or spiritual ideals, sharing the same values is going to be helpful in ensuring future harmony. For example, you will need to be able to share some values in order to make decisions together, parent together, and to live in the same home together.

Important Tip:

Conflicting values can be fun to debate when you’re first dating, but having to live with someone who never agrees with you is not a strong foundation for a marriage.

7.  Do we share the same religion?

If you have strong religious beliefs, you should be able to 1) share them with your partner or 2) respect your partner’s differences. There are many couples that do not share the same religion, but they still need to be able to respect their spouse’s beliefs and have their spouse return the favor.

Important tip: Those that do not share the same religion will want to create a plan on how to deal with this in terms of children and holidays.

8.  Where are we financially?

Marriage is certainly not about money, but making a note of what you have in terms of financial assets is certainly going to help you create a solid foundation. You need to be honest with your partner about your financial situation and they need to be honest with you. If you do not discuss money, this can create conflict in your marriage. In fact, financial stressors are one of the leading causes of divorce.

Action for the day: Perform some type of financial planning as a couple. Make notes regarding your financial situation as it relates to your tastes and standard of living. If you’re fiscally responsible and your partner has a penchant for designer shoes and is drowning in credit card debt, can you manage this divide? Are you and your partner compatible in living within your means?

9.  What are our differences?

Are you and your partner fundamentally different? If so, can you live with those differences? This can be anything that you feel strongly about or something that you simply dislike. For example, every one of us have “dealbreakers” which are things that we categorically will not tolerate. They represent a bare minimum requirement that should never be breached because it would often result in the end of the relationship. Do you need your partner to change in certain areas, or can live with them? Be honest, and save yourself future aggravation! Speak now or forever hold your peace, remember?

Action For The Day:

Make a list of your “dealbreakers” and share them with your partner. This will ensure that you are both on the same page regarding your expectations for your relationship.

A little introspection with respect to the above questions will help you ascertain your personal readiness for marriage. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t think of your partner’s feelings as well. In my next post I address your partner’s readiness for marriage. After all, it takes two!

Five Simple (Yet Critical) Steps To Finding A Life Partner

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By Eileen Edwards

Walk these 5 steps to relationship success.

 

“Of course I want a life partner you may be saying why else would I read this?” Our society considers it important for women to be in a relationship. There is still a perception in many quarters that a woman without a relationship is unhappy. Our friends and relatives want us to be happy and fulfilled and so encourage us to find a life partner. The media also exerts pressure on women to be part of a couple. Many women have mixed feelings about this, which often shows up in them selecting unavailable partners. This is particularly true where the woman concerned has a history of choosing unavailable men. We all have a right to choose a partner or not choose one. We also have a right to decide when we will choose our life partner. If you are enjoying life as a single and currently have no desire to find a life partner please continue to enjoy your life as a single. Only you can decide when and if to choose a life partner.

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Step 2. Define your life partner.

 

Whether you want a new pair of shoes, jacket, home or life partner you can’t have it until you define it. If you have any doubts about this imagine the following. You are at the Railway Station and ask for “a ticket ” “a ticket to where?” would be the response. “Somewhere nice” you might say or ” somewhere where I will be happy”. Its clear what type of response you would receive. It would be along these lines ” madam, until I know exactly where you want to go I can’t provide you with a ticket” It’s exactly the same with a life partner we have to have a clear picture of him before we can find him. “What do I mean by a clear picture?” you may be asking. You need to know what kind of man you want to share your life with and what kind of life you want the two of you to share. Your answer to those two questions will be as individual as you are. For example I am an animal lover and would not have chosen a partner who disliked or was indifferent to animals. Here are some headings to help you identify your ideal man. His looks, height, build, hair colour, eye colour etc? His personality outgoing, quiet, demonstrative, sporty whatever appeals to you? His lifestyle, what kind of work he does, home he lives in, car he drives, how he spends his spare time? Of course finding a life partner isn’t like ordering a take away pizza you may not get all that you desire. The important thing is to know on what you will and will not compromise. For example you might think “I can live with some untidiness but not a man who can’t get on with my parents” Or ” I’ll watch football every Saturday for the right man but he has to be someone who takes my opinions seriously”. It is also important to visualise your shared future, the type of life that you would live together.

 

Step 3. Get pro-active.

 

It’s only in fairy stories that the handsome prince beats a path to our door. In reality we have to make an effort to find him. This means getting out and about and being in situations where you will meet males. This may seem obvious. Many women who don’t have time to socialise due to work or domestic responsibilities have problems in finding a life partner. If you are in this situation there is a technique’ which is perfect for you. Its called “random and specific search”. Even if you have lots of time to socialise I would still recommend that you use it. Most women only look out for their ideal man when they are in social situations. In reality attractive available men are around all the time. Just like you they travel to work on the train, walk their dog, go to the supermarket, attend evening classes, take their Mother out to dinner, they may even use a unisex hairdresser. I am not suggesting that you give your home number to every attractive man you exchange a few words with in the park or supermarket. Begin by being aware that attractive available men some of whom you would certainly like to know better surround you. Situations with an ongoing element are particularly useful for example evening classes or interest groups. These will allow you to meet, talk with and observe the behaviour of potential partners in a number of situations. I’ve just described the random element of random and specific search. The specific element is fairly self-explanatory. For example my friend’s elder sister was happily married to a Greek man. She wanted to follow in her footsteps and visited Greece as often as her budget would allow, ate in Greek restaurants and learnt Greek dance.

 

Step 4. Qualify potential partners

 

When you apply to work for a company you go through a qualification process. That process normally begins with completing an application form and/or submitting your CV. If you are successful at this stage you then attend one or more interviews before being hired for a trial period. In choosing someone to do work on your home or garden you would probably ask friends and neighbours if there was someone that they could recommend. You might enquire about what trade associations your prospective gardener or builder belonged to. Or ask to see some work that they had already completed. Amazingly most women choose a potential life partner on the basis of he has a great smile, lovely blue eyes or a wicked sense of humour. In seeking a life partner you are offering and applying for the most important position possible. So it’s important to go through a qualifying process rather like that mentioned above. Not doing so means that you could waste months or even years with someone who never makes the commitment to being your partner. Dates are a little like life partner interviews although of course much more fun. Using the insights of psychology it’s simple to know quickly, within one or two dates if a particular man is life partner materiel as far as you are concerned. Top tip don’t observe how he treats you on dates but how he treats others. Any man on a date with you will be out to impress you so he will obviously be pleasant to you. If he isn’t he has immediately disqualified himself as your future life partner. Observe how he treats your waitress or taxi driver; someone who isn’t important to him and you will see his true personality.

 

Step 5. Overcome obstacles

 

These come in two forms. If he is attrcative to you he will be attractive to other women. You can’t stop this and in a way you wouldn’t want to. After all they are complimenting you on your choice. Using the insights of psychology can give a number of ways to ensure he chooses you. Space only permits me to share one tip here. It’s this- recognise his individuality. Modern society can make us feel like numbers rather than the unique individuals which we are. It’s important to let him see that to you he is a unique and very special individual. Secondly, most women reading this will probably have had some negative relationship experiences in the past. Psychologists know that our perspective is greatly influenced by our past experiences. We expect the things that happened in the past to happen again. Yet there is no logical reason why they should. Your new man isn’t the one who cheated on you in the past, never showed up on time or saw you as a source of free meals and financial handouts. So you are both starting out with a clean slate in this relationship So now you are ready to walk the five steps to relationship success. Don’t just think about it. Do it, you’ll be glad that you did.

 

Eileen is a psychologist with a special interest in dating and relationships. She turned her life around in this area as a young woman and now helps other women do the same. Visit her at Eileenedwards.co.uk

Why Should He Commit To You?

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By Chris Roberts

Whenever you mention the topic of commitment in a new relationship, you can almost see your man go into shutdown mode. He may nod and pretend to listen but does he? Men generally don’t want to talk about commitments. Have you considered it may not be the commitment topic itself but the way you approach the topic to him?

When it comes to commitment, take out all the negative things that you have heard in the past and give it a fresh clean start. When you approach a man about commitment, make sure you have laid out your groundwork to make the conversation positive instead of drudgery.

Men and women see commitment in very different ways. Men don’t think about committing to a woman, they must feel a need to commit. They don’t lay awake at night counting the months you’ve have been dating. They casually reminisce about the qualities that they feel bring you closer. If you haven’t laid the groundwork for those memories, you are not ready to have the commitment conversation. Hold back on bringing up the subject.

You may be strong, independent, sexy and fun, but if you don’t know how to speak “man language”, you are no closer to him than the other women he’s dated.

When the time comes to talk about relationship feelings and expectations, pay close attention to his words. He may have a very different idea of what he expects from the relationship than you do. In man language, he may be telling you that he enjoys spending time with you but isn’t ready to give you a total commitment. Allow him to express his thoughts and emotions without prejudging his words. Don’t assume he’s non-committal; assume there is something still missing from the relationship.

Don’t pretend to be the woman he wants. He’s not looking for a different woman; he is looking for some additional characteristics in you that he hasn’t experienced up to that point. If you change who you are, you run the risk of being miserable because you can’t truly express yourself. Nurture the things that make him smile and avoid his hot buttons.

Don’t try to talk him into making a deeper commitment and show him how to commit on a deeper level. Talk to him in a manner that allows him to express to you what he’s missing in your relationship. Take these things to heart and focus your attention on giving him what he’s missing.

Be honest with him and ultimately with yourself. Men respect honesty and they cherish understanding. Establish an honest and open communication level and keep them open. You will be surprised how much closer you will become when he feels he can freely talk to you.

To Get more info from Chris Roberts visit http://whyhedoesntcall.com

Is It Superficial Of Me To Not Date A Woman Because She Has A Weave?

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Is it o.k. to have a preference for “natural” hair?  Is it superficial to NOT date women who have a weave?  This was the question we received from a viewer recently…. and in this video we share a piece of our personal history as we talk about natural hair, straight hair, kinky hair, weaves, press n curls and more in an attempt to shed some light the fact that the heart of a woman is not her hair.