Vote & Help The Ma’at Children Win Mom An HGTV Momcation!

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Hey BLAM Fam,

Have you heard? HGTV is giving a lucky Mom and her family a dream vacation to any place of their choice! The chosen family will get to relax and unwind for a week and be filmed for HGTV at the same time. Sounds fun, right? So, we’re entering–and guess what? The deadline for all voting is 5PM EST today! Can you believe it? We’re all last minute–but better late than never! We and the kids had a blast recording our video submission for the contest and hope we win!

But, you can help us out by VOTING FOR US!!! PLEEEEEEEASE

TAKE A SEC TO VOTE & SHARE THE LINK!!!  🙂

CLICK HERE TO VOTE & GIVE US 5 STARS!!!

THANKS!!! Last we checked the most viewed video we saw had 247 views and 135 votes. I know we can do better than that ya’ll can’t we?! I Believe! I Believe! Lol! Please post on your FB walls and tweet away if you would be so kind.


Much Love & Respect!

Ayize, Aiyana, and the Ma’at Crew!

A Conversation Over Sugar Balls

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VIDEO:  Family time is one of those unique opportunities where if you’re in tune you can gain real appreciation for the value of life and love.  In this video, our oldest child is up a couple of hours past his bedtime while he and his Mom make sugar balls for school tomorrow.  We all have a little lighthearted conversation while we share what we got going on and what we got coming up in the near future.  We figured…the sugar balls gotta get done…a video has to get done…why not do them together.

Do You Need To Go To Church To Find A Good Man?

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Video: Where do you find good men? To make it plain good men are everywhere. The question is……are you equipped to recognize one and are you ready to be with one? In this video….we speak to a viewer who says her Mom told her that in order to find a good man she needs to get her behind in church. Question..is church the place to go to find good men? Hmmmmm.

Sometimes All You Can Do Is Cry…Ayize Shares

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By Ayize Ma’at

Every relationship goes through some things…..and it’s in those moments when you feel helpless that you should muster the energy to be vulnerable and cling to the one you love. In this video I share a difficult space in my relationship where I failed my wife. I let my wife down. I hope that in me sharing you gain an understanding of the importance of being connected and doing right by the one you say you love.

Stop Playing & Start Pushing ya’ll….

Ma’at Family Toasts To 1 Year Of Black Love & Marriage.com

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VIDEO: There’s a whirlwind of activity over here at BLAM but we can’t get so caught up in busting our tails that we forget to take time out to say Yay!!!!! We are celebrating one year since we formally took what we do to the next level and entered the online world. This year has been nothing short of miraculous and I am in awe of what the Creator can do when you allow yourself to be the Universe’s best expression!  So,we want to send a very intentional huge thank you to each of you who have helped us get to this point and always have an encouraging word or a new perspective for us to consider. We are thankful for you all. Let’s keep pushing together and don’t foget to check out our newest endeavor PurposePusher.com.

Love Ya’ll!

Ayize & Aiyana

How Long Will You Let Your Relationship Linger In LIMBO?

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ARTICLE/WITH MUSIC AND VIDEO COMMENTARY.  You can feel free to read the article without the music and commentary below.

By Ayize Ma’at

It’s very common to hear people complaining and expressing frustration over the space their relationship is in.  Folks are always looking for the next available ear to unload their “dirt” in hopes that there will be some kind of kindred spirit connection around familiar chaotic circumstances.  Unfortunately, while it’s VERY common to witness dating couples, newly weds, and established weds complaining, it is UNCOMMON to see people demonstrate initiative to make things better.  I will acknowledge, as ignorant as it sounds, sometimes it’s comfortable living in chaos.  There is a certain predictability, familiarity, and assuredness that accompanies staying in the space that you are in.  However, I think that if we are REAL with ourselves, we are staying in the space that we are in, specifically as it pertains to our relationships….because WE’VE ACCEPTED A SPIRIT OF RESIGNATION.  We’ve emotionally tapped out and quietly settled with the thought “it is what it is”.

No…no…no…no…NO!  I emphatically shout that to men, women, and families that have chosen to take an apathetic approach to their relationships.  HOW LONG WILL YOU LET YOUR RELATIONSHIP LINGER IN LIMBO?  You go through your days accepting the next apparent move instead of being intentional and choosing the right move.  Your relationship with yourself, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your fiance’, your spouse……DOES NOT HAVE TO STAY THE SAME.  However, I promise you that YOU and the condition of your relationship will remain the same OR GET WORSE unless you do something different.  I implore you to do something different…..stop lingering in limbo and live your love with intention.  With a heartfelt nudge I urge you to CLICK HERE and GET LOVE RIGHT!

It’s Time To Go To The Next Level. Online Couples & Singles Classes Have Arrived.

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VIDEO: So many of you have asked that we bring what we do online and the time has finally come!!!! Needless to say we are so excited about doing live interactive classes with singles and couples from all over the country at the click of a mouse. Technology is the bomb diggity (ok, corny I know…smile) and we are stretching ourselves, pulling all nighters, and getting it in like never before so we can create the kind of online class experience that will leave you so much stronger, better, and wiser then when you first step foot into our virtual classroom. We are ready for you! Are you ready to grow and learn? Class is in session!

***ONLINE REGISTRATION GOES LIVE TODAY AT 3:00PM***

FOR MORE  DETAILS ABOUT THE CLASSES PLEASE CLICK HERE!

The NEW Marriage Negotiations

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VIDEO: Please help us out and share this with any and everybody you know! This is our premier project for 2011 and we are so excited about all the wonderful people we’re going to meet and relationships that are going to be elevated. This is Real talk about real relationships going to the next level. There are positive examples of black love in the African American community and blackloveandmarriage.com is diligently working to bring healing and wholeness to love. Relationships require negotiation, compromise and flat out work. The online relationship classes we have starting in April will definitely show you how to find love and strengthen the love that you have. Registration begins March 9th. Classes begin April 18th.

For general information on the classes CLICK HERE.

Being MARRIED Is Different Than Being BOYFRIEND & GIRLFRIEND

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VIDEO: The other day my wife,Aiyana, and I spoke at a Young Professionals event about Black Love and the Art of Communication. There was standing room only and the crowd was FLYYYY. 😉 After we spoke a gentleman came up to me and said he honestly didn’t see the value in marriage and he felt like you could have the same thing in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that you can have in a married relationship. So I shared a few thoughts with him. Check out this video and get a better understanding of why being married IS different from being boyfriend/girlfriend.

Are Threesomes And Marriage A Dangerous Mix?

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VIDEO: It seems like this is a hot topic these days. A wife wrote in who’s interested in bringing a 3rd person into her and her husband’s bedroom. But she wants to know if moving into menage a trois land is just too dangerous for marriage. She also asks for ways to bring this up with her husband. Weeell, how do you think we responded??? You’ll never guess so go ahead and click play and then take a minute to leave a comment letting us know what you think about this. Agree…disagree, it really doesn’t matter. There is always more than one way and certainly more than one perspective so share yours and don’t forget to keep it 100% real! 🙂